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May is MY Month

May is a HUGE month, well for my family it is.

It is the one month in the year where it has many birthdays (including mine), including Mother’s Day.

Since this month is hugely popular and is the time of the year we celebrate Mums I thought why not make the whole month of May dedicated to women.

The whole idea is that the month of May is your month. It is for you to do something each day just for you.

I know that many of you are super busy working at being a mum or working at a job or possibly both.  I’ve created a list of 31 things that you can do. Just simply pick one that you wish to do or you might wish to do a couple on the same day, it is up to you. Remember it is up to you and May is your month to do things for you, just make sure to not overwhelm yourself with things on a list that you might not get to.

There are 31 days in May so plenty of time to do a little of something each day.

Simply getting a cup of coffee at a local cafe after dropping kids off at school or care can be a boost for the soul. Or even taking yourself to a movie to finally watch a show that you have been desperate to see.

Some items on the list might not be super fun but after you’ve done them you will be happier. De-cluttering is a bit of work but the outcome of having a tidier and more organised space means less stress and more time for you and the family.

Also getting all the health checks is a bit boring but a must do. I like to make sure I stay on top of things like skin checks, pap smears, and a regular check-up at the doctors once a year to ensure that I am in good health. Having it done at a certain time each year means I don’t have to think about it, I just organise the times and go to the appointments.

You will see some fun things on the list as well.

For those that don’t want to download the graphic here is the whole list of the 31 items for May:

1. Get coffee at a cafe by yourself or with friends (kid free)

2. Go for a walk

3. Go swimming/exercise at the gym

4. Explore a new area

5. Start a course

6. Meet with friends for a night out/lunch out

7. Read a book/finish the book you’re reading

8. Take a trip away by yourself or with family

9. Save for something special or add extra to your retirement savings

10. Watch your shows on TV

11. Get food delivered so that you get time out

12. Take time away from computers/phones/tablets

13. Invest in adventures (experiences) rather than things

14. Watch less TV and work on things that interest you

15. Take up a hobby, sewing, craft  or write that book

16. Get a massage

17. Get all your health checks done

18. Go to the hairdressers and get a fab new do

19. Invest in some quality makeup

20. Purchase some good moisturiser for your face and body

21. Visit family more

22. See more movies at the cinema

23. Get some new clothes

24. Meditate more

25. Relax

26. Spend time with the kids and just be

27. If you paint, draw, or do photography enter a competition or show your work

28. Learn a language/get pedicure & a manicure

29. If a foodie take lessons on how to cook certain styles of food

30. De-clutter to enjoy more free time not having to do housework

31. Prioritise you to be a happier person

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May 2023 Get Unstuck Self-Care Challenge

May is my month and I always feel like it is a lucky month.

This might be true or it might not be, no matter what the right answer is I really love the month of May.

Maybe it is due to it being my birth month? Maybe it is that some really good things have happened in May. Who knows, I am not going to analyse the actual reason and just go with the fact that May is a lucky month for me, or at least it feels that way.

Lately, I have been feeling flat, down, depressed, and stuck. YEP. Not good.

I have been getting annoyed at the fact that I ask for things to get done and weeks later they are not done. It is not on my timeline it seems to be on someone else’s. I am hating this and I feel like I just need to take more control, do things for myself and have some quiet alone time.

I’ve decided that if I want to do something to just do it. GO FOR IT! I am sick of waiting for the right time, to have all things aligned to be just right. If I give more things a go, I believe I will be less annoyed at not getting anything done. Starting will allow me to see small progress and to be a happier version of myself.

I did decide months back that 2023 will be my year to do more…however nearly half the year is already gone and I have done a few things but not some of the bigger projects that I have been keen to start. Is this happening to you? Do you get caught up and don’t have time for yourself, your projects, and other things you are keen to do? If you said yes, then we can start some things together in May.

Pick an item from the list below and do 1 each day during May

  1. Try green smoothies – Green smoothies have a number of benefits, it is an easy way to get more fruit and veggies into your diet. These smoothies are packed with “fibre, which lowers cholesterol and glucose levels, keeps you feeling fuller for longer and regulates your body’s cleansing processes” usnews.com
  2. Drink a lot more water – Staying hydrated helps you stay healthy. Being hydrated helps your brain function and can prevent headaches, helps with weight loss, helps with constipation and improves your skin.
  3. Walk more – Movement helps you feel better. Sitting all day is not good for you, it is recommended to get 10,000 steps per day. My aim is to do a walk or have movement each day. Some days I do thousands more steps and some days I do less. Just get moving and feel better!
  4. Moisturise all your skin – As it is May it is autumn and the weather is colder. I find that I get rather dry skin in autumn and also in winter. I don’t always moisturise my body and I need to do this more often. Dry skin is a horrible issue to have and if you don’t look after your skin can lead to other issues.
  5. Get enough vitamin D – If you are lacking in vitamin D you can be depressed, upset and get sick too. Being in the sunshine for only 10-15 minutes a day is good for a daily dose of vitamin D. It is hard when the weather is not great, as you stay inside more and therefore don’t get natural sunlight. If you need to grab a vitamin D supplement and get checked by the doctor if you think your levels are low.
  6. Paint or draw – I love drawing and painting, I am not great and not that bad either. Although I am not a paid artist I find it relaxing and fun. I need to do more of this as it is very enjoyable and I might create a great artwork that no one else has.
  7. Do something for you every day – Pick something that is just for you to do each day. It can be a simple, small or big thing. It doesn’t matter what it is just as long as it is something you love and it is just for you only. Yoga, visit a museum, do a course, catch up with a mate, or watch your favourite show on NetFlix.
  8. Listen to different music – Expose yourself to music you wouldn’t normally listen to. You might hate some of it but you might fall in love with a new artist that will be your new favourite music to play.
  9. Meditate – Meditating helps you feel better, be more focused, work better, and of course, be a calmer more switched-on person. Give it a go and see how it helps you during May.
  10. Work on your core – A strong stomach and core help your back. I need to do this and focus on more core to allow a stronger stomach, to then allow better posture and be a stronger woman for the future.
  11. Dedicated time out each day – It is hard to be a busy mum with three kids and not have many opportunities for time out. I need to negotiate and make time happen more for me. Make it happen for you to allow you to recharge.
  12. Visit friends and family – Make sure to drop in on friends and family. Plan regular catch-ups for coffee with a mate to touch base and allow you to be on your own and do something for yourself.
  13. Try a new exercise – I love aqua aerobics and walking but you might want to try joining a gym or boot camp at your local park.
  14. Take up a hobby you have always wanted to do – I have always wanted to learn how to make stained glass windows, and would love to do a workshop to learn more. What would you like to learn? Also, I have a fantasy of becoming a successful painter. Give something a go and have fun!
  15. Be in nature – We stare at too many screens, have a break and be in the bush and stare at plants and nature.
  16. Try new things – Pick something you have wanted to do and just do it!
  17. Travel – Plan a big trip or just go somewhere locally that you have never been before.
  18. Create a vision board -Vision boards are said to help you focus on your goals and dreams. No matter your thoughts on a vision board, give it a go and see how it helps you. You never know right?
  19. Use sunscreen – Sunscreen is super important and not just for times when it is sunny. You can still get burnt when it is cloudy.
  20. Take more baths – Time for you to just relax completely.
  21. Book a hotel for a weekend getaway – Having planned weekend getaways means you are excited and look forward to something rather than going nowhere and getting down in the dumps. Do it now, go and book that hotel.
  22. Drive somewhere different – Have you ever been interested in what is down that street? Well wonder no more, go and find out.
  23. Read a book – Spend some time reading a book you have been desperate to read.
  24. Sleep for eight hours – Sleep is great and helps you feel better and not get sick. Making sure you prioritise sleep is a good idea.
  25. Listen to a podcast – I love listening to Podcasts, it could be a murder mystery, blogging podcast, how someone built their business or something fun from Planet Money or Morbid (I love true crime). You can listen to anything you like.
  26. Get takeaway – Don’t cook and order Thai or other favourite takeaway and have a glass of wine. Or sign up to EveryPlate or HelloFresh to make dinners super easy and put your feet up and relax!
  27. Dark chocolate is good for you – Dark chocolate has been proven to be good for you. Eat a few squares, relax and enjoy!
  28. Relax and do nothing – Sometimes it is nice to just sit and do absolutely nothing. Putting your feet up and resting is a good thing to do. It can reset you and make you feel better too. If you wish you can binge-watch shows on any of the streaming sites.
  29. Hire a babysitter – Hire a babysitter to go out and have some adult time with your partner or your other friends.
  30. Go to a show – Look for what bands or acts are touring and see if you would like to go.
  31. Eat less meat and eat more vegetables – I am a meat eater but like to not eat that much each week. I change it up with fish and vegetables.

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Early Dinner

I have a new episode for Bluey, it is called “Early Dinner”.

Need an early dinner to allow me to go back to my hotel and relax

The episode would go like this.

Chilli has a work getaway organised. Bandit would look after the kids, Bluey and Bingo. Chilli kisses everyone goodbye and starts her journey to the city. Chilli then has to decide; does she meet up with her workmates or does she stay and relax in her hotel room?

She decides to stay in her hotel room and relaxes with a warm bath, then watch her own tv while eating dinner from room service. The episode ends with Bandit being super busy with kids wanting to constantly play and Chilli falling asleep in the star position on her bed in her hotel room.

Now cut to actual real life and not a Bluey episode…

A few weeks back I met some of my teammates in the city for dinner and an early morning start for a HUGE strategy day at work. While deciding where to meet and the time I explained if it is not good for the others, I would be perfectly happy to get dinner on my own and spend the time in my hotel room doing my own thing.

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I know this sounds very antisocial but as a busy mum to three kids, finally being on my own was wonderful. I did want to meet up with my colleagues but also would be very happy not to as well. I was conflicted.

Once I divulged this to some of the ladies I work with, one told me she totally relates. She then told me, if I wanted to just stay in my hotel and not meet up that was fine too.

One suggestion was to have an “Early Dinner” so that I can socialise and still have me time at the hotel.

Before kids, I would have never entertained an early dinner and now that is fine and a good idea. And yes, perfectly acceptable.

What a dilemma! Socialise or be antisocial? Or finally, have some me time and relax!

Have you been in this situation before? Spoiler alert: I ended up socialising and did really enjoy it as well as finally being on my own in my hotel room.

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Wising it was still holidays…well part of me does

School is back and part of me is still wishing we were on holidays.  I am finding that I’m so tired I have to remind myself what day it is so that I don’t sleep in and think it is still the weekend. I personally just want to sleep in and say bugger it and have a day or two off.

Don’t get me wrong…I do love the fact that the kids are at school and I get a break.

However, school term means that after-school activities have started again.

Coordinating everything and getting all kids to where they need to be is a full-time job.  Another negative of racing around means that mummy is always exhausted.

This what I would rather be doing. Relaxing and doing nothing in particular. Time out for mummy!
This what I would rather be doing. Relaxing and doing nothing in particular. Time out for mummy!

School means that I need to make lunches, drop kids at school and also pick up.

Holidays were good as I didn’t have to be anywhere in a hurry.

I didn’t have to be up at a certain time for school to start or to pick up when school was over.

Holidays also means that there are no extra circular things to take kids too. I can just be home and not go anywhere unless I want to or I suppose need to.

It’s a pity that you cannot combine the good things about the holidays and school term in one.

I know this is a hard ask and really quite impossible but it is a nice idea. Don’t you think so?

I’ve had a very busy school holiday break. Kids were always doing something, friends came over, we visited other friends, the family visited, kids visited family, and we went out as a family.

Now school has gone back I’m still racing around like a mad person for everyone else.

I did hope that with my first day off that I would get a chance to do some long waited for things for me. I even signed up for a webinar for my first kid-free day.

This kid-free day was not to be, I had to take the twins into the city for the first afternoon back at school. No day off for me just yet.

I know I have had 1 true day off and that was great, but I still had to be up at the crack of dawn to organise kids to being at care, so I could be at my function. Still exhausted and drooling over just sitting and do nothing for a while.
I know I have had 1 true day off and that was great, but I still had to be up at the crack of dawn to organise kids to being at care, so I could be at my function. Still exhausted and drooling over just sitting and do nothing for a while.

However I was lucky to manage to get some nice kid free time while at the Bloggers Brunch last Friday. Although kids did try and make sure they were with me via hurting themselves the night before. They were all good to go to school and care, and I was happy to be able to network and be on my own finally.

Yes, I’m a whinger for saying I haven’t had a break and in fact I have had 1 day off so far, but although that was a day off for me it was not really 100% relaxing. I still had to be up super early to get kids to care to allow me to attend my function, and I still had to pick them up and make and organise dinner for everyone although I was late home.

Do you wish you could have the good things from the holidays while kids still went to school? Am I the only one that is thinking this? Let me know via a comment on this post.

 

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The Hotel Dedicated to Rest

I’m tired.

I’m exhausted.

I know kids, life and work do this. Resting or downtime for me never seems enough. What about you?

I went to bed last night and had the most interesting thoughts.

A hotel dedicated to rest. A hotel dedicated to relaxation and downtime. This hotel would have restful rooms and it would be a quiet space.

This hotel would pamper mums. No kids allowed. Just mums.

This is the hotel that I dreamt about. A nice comfortable white bed, no one to wake me up, no alarms, no kids, nothing to do but just to rest and to relax.
This is the hotel that I dreamt about. A nice comfortable white bed, no one to wake me up, no alarms, no kids, nothing to do but just to rest and to relax.

In my dream the hotel had wall to wall beds. The beds were white, in fact everything was white. It was a quiet space that ensured all guests could sleep and sleep they did.

The sleep was a deep sleep and no one woke anyone. No kids were there. No alarms, no clocks. It was a space that allowed you to just be.

 




The hotel was a place that once you have slept enough you could then explore the facilities. There was a spa, yoga, a gym, swimming pool, healthy chef on call to create some extremely yummy food, great drinks and lounges so that you can sit back and read your favourite book, and last but not least the grounds were so amazing that you could explore and never be near another person – a fabulous place to meditate and be at one with nature.

My trip to this hotel was cut short. I woke up and had to get kids ready for school and the baby off to childcare.

I did not want to get out of bed. I was so comfortable and the bed felt like I was melting into it. It was perfect, but this perfection ended due to having to start the day.

Why can’t I stay in bed and pretend I was back at this hotel that is dedicated to sleep. I need to go back to this place so that I can relax and just be.

It is a real pity that this hotel is not real.

Maybe there are hotels and services out there that can do this, however I’m sure they would cost a lot of money for this experience. My dream was free.

Would you love to travel to this hotel too? I want to go back and I only just visited last night.

Let me know if you have dreamt of something similar?

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Summer School Holidays End

I know a cat photo is strange to put in this post. I did look for a photo of an annoyed mum or parent. Or even kids being silly. I thought that this annoyed cat summed up my feelings and might even represent some of my facial expressions over the holidays.
I know a cat photo is strange to put in this post. I did look for a photo of an annoyed mum or parent. Or even kids being silly. I thought that this annoyed cat summed up my feelings and might even represent some of my facial expressions over the holidays.

I love summer.

I love holidays.

However I am over the craziness of the school holidays and keen for kids to go back to school. There I said it. Lately everything is a drama, and I am so over it.

When is my turn to take a holiday?????  I have been trying to use positive thought power to attract a family holiday to Fiji maybe, or possibly a working holiday just for me to Queensland or Melbourne. Who knows… I am just dreaming and putting it out to the universe at the moment.

I know a cat photo is strange to put in this post. I did look for a photo of an annoyed mum or parent. Or even kids being silly. I thought that this annoyed cat summed up my feelings and might even represent some of my facial expressions over the holidays.
I know a cat photo is strange to put in this post. I did look for a photo of an annoyed mum or parent. Or even kids being silly. I thought that this annoyed cat summed up my feelings and might even represent some of my facial expressions over the holidays.

One thing that I am not looking forward to is the weather getting cooler but one BIG thing that is making me smile is the hours that will be mine when kids and baby are at school and care.

Soon I will have some uninterrupted time. This time will be quiet. No kids yelling, no kids arguing and no baby demanding cuddles or screaming and crying. The joy of soon having two days to myself, aside from school pick up and drop off.

The girls start grade three on Monday and due to the baby being in care on the Tuesday I have organised something for me.

I’ve made an appointment to get my hair done. Yes some pamper time for mummy. It will be relaxing and so nice to do something for me and to be on my own for a change.

Are you looking forward to school going back? Are you over the kids acting feral and crazy lately? I know I am. I am longing for some lovely time to just be at home and to get things done. It could be blogging, sorting things out with the house or just sitting down and having some quiet time for me.

What are you wanting to do when kids go back to school? Let me know.

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Be Different in 2017

In 2017 I want to be different.

I know just announcing that I want to be different is a huge statement.

I know I can’t magically be Angelina Jolie or maybe Drew Barrymore.  However, it would be nice to be able to magic up some things like a new house, more money or say kids that do as they are told? I can dream can’t I?

This is what I want to do more of this year. Relaxing in my garden or under a tree.
This is what I want to do more of this year. Relaxing in my garden or under a tree.

By different I mean do things differently, pare back, simplify, and take some time to just be.

 

In 2016 I was racing around like a mad person. I had a new baby and kids at school that required me taking them to many after school activities. This year I want to stop many of the after-school activities aside from two that the girls love and that is about it.

 

Now it is 2017 I would love to be a calmer and more productive year for all, more so for me as a mummy. I was the one dealing with carting people back and forth and trying to keep an annoyed and tired baby entertained while the kids had their time at guitar practice or other activity.

This year it would be a lovely change to go home and to just be. The only fight I see on the horizon for after school is getting kids to do their homework. Other than that, maybe tidying their room and helping around the house but that is a standard annoyance.

One other major annoyance I have had is the stress that goes along with getting kids to listen and do as they are told. I do try and keep calm but my voice gets raised and then I end up yelling after the millionth time of telling and asking for someone to do a simple task! Yes, frustrating to say the least.

So, this year I would like to yell less or maybe not at all. I know that I’m not perfect and being a real mum means that things don’t happen like the movies or the magazines, but it would be nice to have things go a little more smoothly this year.

Another major milestone is about to happen soon, our little boy Alexander is going to start day-care. I know some might not think day-care is a good idea but I feel that it will help his socialisation with others and especially kids his own age.

He will explore and learn new things and it will all help his development. I am rather anxious about this day but also to excited. The anxious part is Alexander is still very clingy to me and frets when I leave the room, I hope that he will love the place and forget about me when we are there. We are scheduled for an orientation day so that he can get used to the space and people, and I hope this helps him feel more secure at the day-care centre.

On the days that he goes to care I am hoping to get more done with the blog and the house. The alone time will also allow me to do things that I cannot do with kids, maybe get my hair done, go to the movies by myself, go to the gym or maybe do some laps in the pool, or how about finally go for a walk on my own without a pram. Oh, how I am looking forward to this.

I do hope that Alexander will love childcare, he is such a busy little person that I’m sure he will keep everyone on their toes and enjoy all the new experiences.

The twins started childcare a day a week once they turned one. It did them a world of good and especially me, due to no family nearby.  I am on my own looking after the kids. Hubby works late so if something needs to be done I do it.

It was nice when I had that one day per week for just me. I could either plan to do something for me or whiz through the house and do a huge tidy up. It is so much easier to tidy without kids seeing what you are doing… and terrible if they see you chuck out their artwork or prized creations. (cue the screaming and tears!)

I am prepared that I will be upset for a few weeks until Alexander settles in and I hope that he likes it as much as I think he will. We will see.

This is me... well not really but I am pretending. I am spending some much needed time in the pool.
This is me… well not really but I am pretending. I am spending some much needed time in the pool.

Lately I’ve been thinking of all the things that I would love to achieve this year. Some are huge and others are not. Many align to my calmer and simpler idea for 2017:

  • Cut down on after school activities
  • Less television time
  • More time with the kids
  • Less or no yelling
  • Be calmer
  • Do more exercise
  • Be happier
  • De-clutter the house to feel better
  • Days for just me (Mummy). I could be blogging away on my new laptop or just at the pool doing laps, or maybe seeing a film no else wishes to see and I finally can. It could even be a day at the spa????? A Pamper day for me…what a delightful thought.
  • A tidier and more organised home that makes everyone happier and calmer.

 

Do you have goals for 2017? Are they to just do less like mine? I know I have a full list of other things but if I’m not racing around to get to the other activities I have time to prioritise on the real tasks I wish to focus on.

I suppose I’m looking at what is important to me and my family. What are your priorities for 2017?

Maybe another way to look at new year goals is what annoyed you last year that you don’t wish to do ever again, this way you can simplify your year and make you happier at the same time.

I for one hated the fact that the kids and I only had one day per week to be at home after school. The rest was filled with activities I had to race to, and all the while keep a baby happy and sometimes this was not possible and I had a screaming baby.

Let me know what you have decided to not do in 2017 that will put a smile on your face. Send in your comments.

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Maternity Leave Perks?

Picture this. I am up at 3am or so. I’m feeding my baby boy.

While I do this I like to have the television on with the volume on low to maybe muted so that I can have some light in a very darken room, plus it does help while I get the baby back to bed as this can sometimes take hours.

You can imagine my shock when I saw a story on Good Morning America about a woman called, “Meghann Foye” and her book about “meternity leave”

Meghann wants all the perks of maternity leave but without having any kids!

I had not heard of this person and also about her idea of meternity leave…. I have obviously been having too much fun on my magical holiday with my new born baby.  

Mummy cuddling her baby.
Mummy cuddling her baby.

One point Meghann made was that parents left work on time to go home to their kids. Well she can do this too. Meghann can make a point of leaving on time to go home or to meet with mates after work. She does not have to have kids to do this.

I know that putting in extra hours at the office shows that you are keen and want to do more. However this can also not be helpful to you as you will be stressed out and might burn out due to the extra hours. Maybe the extra hours are the issue… if Meghann left on time she might not want meternity leave?

I was so intrigued and amazed I increased the volume on the television but was very conscious this might delay getting the baby back to sleep. I had to learn more about this weird idea.

Well I have a nasty shock for you Meghann, maternity leave is not an exotic holiday.

It is not a time that you can just do whatever you want, although it would be nice. You are caring for a new little person that relies on you for everything.

The reality is that you are on call 24 hours a day and also 7 days a week. No sick leave, no pay, and no help really. It is just you.

When you bring home your bundle of joy you are most likely still exhausted from childbirth, you are sore and just feeling like shit actually. Although you feel horrible you still love the fact that you had the baby and think it is amazing and also a fabulous experience.

However all the lovely fuzzy feel good stuff cannot erase the whole thought and feeling that you would really like to be left alone and have a HUGE SLEEP ALL ALONE!  This to date has not happened yet….I’m still waiting. Maybe I need some meternity leave now to have some time for me. This way I will get this long anticipated and wanted sleep.

I am not sure what Meghann means by perks of maternity leave?

Is it getting up at all hours to feed a baby?

Is it being extremely sleep deprived that you mix up dates and times. In reality you are really like a zombie…. I’m sure you know what I mean.

Maybe getting thrown up on when the kids are sick? I have had this times two.

Oh….. Wait maybe it is the fact that as the mother you are now the primary caregiver and you cannot get anything done without a little person or people following you around.

I do think it is wonderful that I have had three lovely little people and I feel blessed that we could do that. I also do understand that some women don’t want kids and that is fine too.

However to make out that maternity leave is like a glamourous vacation is just not so. How about you try and spend a day or even a week with me and that idea will be crushed in seconds.

  • Housework
  • Never getting to finish tasks
  • Being constantly interrupted
  • Cleaning
  • Washing and sorting clothes
  • Getting kids to school
  • Caring, feeding and all things baby. I do love my cuddles with our new little person and of course his lovely giggles and smiles.
  • Dropping kids and picking kids up from school
  • Taking kids to after school activities all with the baby…. Yes waking him up for everything is annoying but I have no choice
  • Getting the kids to do their reading, homework and other things for school. Now this is such a drama as they really don’t want to do this. I try and do this all while trying to settle and get a baby to bed, while the older two are having arguments and being loud and annoying

Do you think it sounds like there are fabulous perks yet? The only perk that I can come up with is that I have three little people that make me feel great when sometimes I don’t. They love me and I love them to bits.

I agree that everyone needs me time.

Everyone needs to be able to recharge their battery so to speak. Some downtime, a chance to chill and to refocus and maybe get the creative juices flowing again.

I don’t think that asking for time out to help with study, work or just to have a break is a bad thing. However trying to say that maternity leave is a perk is just wrong.

One place I worked for factored in some time to just be creative in the workday. This creative time allowed the staff member to explore other areas of interest, maybe learn something that would help them in their role or allow them to work on a pet project.

Me time is something that everyone should get. It is hard though when you take care of young children. It also might be hard if you are the carer of a family member. Time out is good for everyone, and also allows you to be a better mummy or carer since you had some time out. Not being able to do something for you and not having the time to do it can get very frustrating.

What do you think of Meghann Foye’s idea of meternity leave?  Do you agree that it should be a thing? I personally think that you can have this option it is just called holidays or say study leave. Or maybe it is called something else at your workplace.

I personally think that if you don’t have kids or other pressures you can have as much me time as you want.  I do understand people have to work and other commitments, but once you have done that, you can have your time.

Also if you figure out any other perks of maternity leave please send them my way!

 

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Wednesday Wisdom

Creating My Own Sunshine

I have had about 3 or more weeks fighting a bad cold, to then get very bad hay fever. I am over the feeling unwell and sneezing and I do feel zapped of energy and motivation. However in my messy house currently I am hoping to do some things for me. Due to being unwell, I have felt rather down and depressed. Silly but not unreasonable given the circumstances.

I am hoping to create some of my own sunshine to allow me to shine and feel good and happy. A bit of me time for my projects will allow this. Now to go and clean the dining room table to get stuck into my project. Image found on Pinterest.
I am hoping to create some of my own sunshine to allow me to shine and feel good and happy. A bit of me time for my projects will allow this. Now to go and clean the dining room table to get stuck into my project. Image found on Pinterest.

I am hoping to get some sewing done to cheer me up. I am planning on doing some skirts for the girls, a skirt for me and pajama pants for myself as well.  (yes something for myself). However this project for me and of course the kids has not happened due to trying to get some housework done. By the time I whiz about and do the odd jobs I never get time for my things. Do you find this happens? I especially need a pick me up now due to being a bit out of sorts.

Don’t worry I am on the mend and hope all is getting better, however I am still sniffling due to hay fever I think and hope the cold is well and truly gone!

It is not grey hair, it is sparkles in your hair.
It is not grey hair, it is sparkles in your hair.

The other day Julia was looking at my hair. She must have spied a grey hair. I don’t have many and only about two, but loved what Julia called them. She said that they were sparkles in my hair. I would rather have sparkles than grey hair and thought that this is a nicer way of describing grey hair. So all of you that have grey hair, you have sparkles in your hair.

This made me smile and of course is another lovely thought to add to the sunshine in my day. It has also reminded me it is time to dye my hair again due to more sparkles appearing. Yes I would like to avoid sparkles for a bit longer if I can.

Stop worrying about your stresses and focus on your blessings.
Stop worrying about your stresses and focus on your blessings.

Lately I have been thinking about the troubles and stresses in my life and not looking at all that is good. I am very blessed and lucky for what I have. I need to stop worrying and just be. Do you do this as well? I know I DO!

What do you do to let more sunshine into your day? Do you meditate, relax, have a chat with mates, have some quiet time, sit in the garden, have flowers to look at, or do a bit of your favourite hobby? Maybe reading a good book is just what the doctor ordered?

Let us know what you do and maybe others will be inspired as well. Send in your comments.

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Things to do

Time Out Idea: Kids Sleep Over With Family

After the twins birthday party, I was asked by their Great Aunt if we would be happy for the kids to have a sleep over at their place. I said that sounded fine, checked with hubby and he thought that would be a nice idea. She mentioned that this will allow us to have a break and for her to catch up with the kids.

Little did I know was that it was not just one night that she was thinking about, in fact it would be two nights and we would have the ENTIRE weekend to ourselves. To make it even better, the kids are being dropped off some time on the Monday…Yes, they are coming home Monday so we get to do whatever we want on the whole weekend!

The kids bags are packed. Ready to go to their sleep over tomorrow.
The kids bags are packed. Ready to go to their sleep over tomorrow.

I did think she had mistaken this coming weekend for the October Long Weekend and had to check. She told us the dates, 27th and the 28th of Sept, so we booked a hotel in the city for us for the Saturday thinking it was just one night. It gets hard with hubby’s work being away on a Sunday so Saturday is still good enough for us.

This sudden weekend by ourselves took us by surprise and got me thinking… Do your kids have a sleep over at relatives? I do understand that if they are too young this might not be possible, but if they are older it might be a great idea.

Holidays are tough when you have to keep the kids entertained and seem like you are always on the go with no rest. Kids visiting with relatives is great as they can learn from them, catch up, have adventures and just have fun with other people. I have found that on the odd time that the twins have slept over their Great Aunt’s they have had a wonderful time.

Lillian especially has been so excited she has packed multiple bags with so many things ready for tomorrow. All their bags are packed with my help today. I am not sure exactly what they have packed, but I think there are many toys, a music box, their perfume, and other important items that must go with them. It was so cute that she raced off to get it all done and her sister then helped get all the extra bags. I wonder what their Great Aunt will find when they unpack?

So I put it to you…

Are you able to have the kids/child sleep over at a relatives? It does not have to be for the entire weekend, one night is ample at times. The kids are so looking forward to their “two night sleep over” as they are calling it. They are looking forward to having adventures and being on their own with family, without mummy and daddy. They are saying how big they are now they are six.

This was unexpected and not planned, but it is going to be lovely…. Me Time, Us Time, sleeping in…. No one asking me to make them breakfast, well at least not till Tuesday.

It might be something to think about organising for next holidays or just the weekend? Start small and I am sure you will love the extra YOU time. It is also a cheap idea of the kids going somewhere without breaking the bank (Assuming you are in the same state and not too far away. If you are not that close it might not be possible)

Let us know if your kids have regular sleep overs with family members? What are their favourite parts of the trip or getaway? Send in your comments.

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4 years and beyond

Cleaning and Stuff

The house is a mess due to it being too hot to do much and also kids wanting to play with everything. My aim is to tidy as much as I can over the weekend as the kids are in pre-school 3 days next week. I would like to make use of my time next week in a better way and also need to focus on what to pack for summer school and staying at the relatives place. After I have things better sorted will create a list of what I need to make sure not to forget anything.

It will be another hot and steamy day today and hoping that the cool change will make night time better for the kids, last night it was very warm for them. According to the temperature egg in their room it was about 30 degrees even when I had the fan and all doors and windows open.  Today is the first day of summer so I suppose it is meant to be hot, I do like hot weather, however it would be nice to be a pool or have a drink in hand under a tree relaxing. What about you?

Laundry, folding and sorting then putting away, and of course picking up and putting away awaits me. Hubby had a good night last night with work and stayed in town in an air conditioned hotel, so last night was rather jealous that we were not there with him. As I type he is on his way home and then will experience the heat that we have been facing. He does not deal or cope well with the heat. Maybe he is lucky it will be cooler tomorrow, lets hope that the weather people are right about this report.

I still think a cleaning fairy would be ideal or at the very least a clone of myself to do the jobs I just really don’t want to do. Do you have these fantasies or is it just me? Maybe it is? Since there are no magical helpers I am off to get into the housework. Although my little helpers helped mummy clean the outside of the car yesterday, both girls were very good and did such a great job – just needed a change of clothes for all of us afterwards.

Do you try and get your jobs or chores done so that you can maximise your time off? I do try to, however there are some things that cannot be done when kids are around. Why not continue the discussion on our twitter or facebook pages.

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4 years and beyond

Time For Me

Why is it when you suddenly have time for you, the slot fills with something else to do and you never get to do what you wanted to do? I am aiming to get some sewing done but first need to think about what I would like to create first. The dilemma is that I have many things in my head currently, will it be pants, a dress, or a skirt? Not sure. I want to learn to do something different, but this takes some time to sit and analyse how to do something new.

I have set up the dining room table and will get creating today and tonight as I am keen to do something. As I have finished my exam and waiting for summer school to start I have more free time. I just hope that I can achieve what is in my head, only time will tell. You know what it is like, you have grand plans that are in your brain but sometimes they don’t come out the way you envisioned. We will see.

Are you finding that as soon as you have a free bit of time you suddenly get busy? Does this impact your things that you have been hanging to do? It happens like that for me. Send in your comments.

 

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4 years and beyond

More Time For Self Care

Yes pre-school is back for term 4, although the last one of the year but I am happy that school is back. Having the kids at pre-school allows me to do my things or just have a rest from the constant wants of little kids. It is hard to be on and going non stop and it is very nice to have the house quiet and some down time. Although this down time does consist of tidying and cleaning but I will try not to do too much as I need to maximise my two days this week. The girls only have two days this week due to a pupil free day on Monday, so next week back to the standard three days and an even happier mummy.

Do you like your quiet time? I know I do. I love it when I am alone and able to concentrate and get things done. Sometimes I do feel terrible for wanting to be left alone but I suppose that is what mothers do, they feel guilty about looking after themselves. I am trying not to feel bad as it is good to do self care and focus on you. A better mother makes a better family.

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It was hard to get everyone out of the house this morning and even harder when I had to wake very tired kids. Why is it that when it is school holidays they wake at 6am or earlier and when it is a school day mummy has to wake them and get them out of bed. Not fair I must say.

This term I am going to aim to be more organised and have my things ready to go, by this I mean my sewing, study and so on. I aim to create more, do more and just get more done that I would like to achieve. My fear is that if I don’t then I will be in school holidays again and hanging for next year for school to start again. I know, never happy.  So watch this space, I am going to be a force to be reckoned with, a creative dynamite (well I can live in hope, can’t I?)

I am looking forward to the Christmas school holidays as we are going to visit Grandma and Grandad and go to the beach. As I am originally from Queensland, I miss the beach and the hot weather. So going to the beach is something that I really miss and cannot wait to do. Bring it on!  The kids will love it and it will be a good day out, however need to wait until December for this unless we go up the coast on the weekend or to the city.

Are you happy school has gone back? Is it just me that hangs for school to return? I love the kids and enjoy being with them, but school is my only time out. I am sure there are others that feel the same way. It is a bit sad that it is the last term of the year, soon it will mark the end of my girls first year at pre-school. Some of their friends are off to big school next year but they have another year. They need to be 5 in the middle of the year but they are 5 in September (the end of the year), so they have to go the next year. This is good as they will have another year learning and growing and be bigger and better for big school in 2014.  Send in your comments.

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4 years and beyond

Grand Plans

I have many things to keep me occupied during the day, and the main one is looking after the girls. Other than that, housework, laundry, trying to keep fit and lose weight, university, sewing and attempting to start my own business from home (the business idea is based around my sewing, it will happen I just need to get focused).

I am the type of person who has a million and one things she would like to achieve, however I know it is not practical. I would be happy getting the house clean, keeping it clean and being able to do study or even sewing /another hobby and maybe get the chance to go and exercise. Yes that is a simple want. Then why can’t I get my ideas for bigger, grander ideas out of my head.

Maybe it is the frustration of school holidays with no me time? Maybe it is just that I am not as focused as I should be. I have great plans for my home based business, I also would like to write a children’s book (I have a great idea but the challenge is to get it written and then maybe if lucky published). I know, just focus on one thing right? Well it is easier said than done.

Before kids I was the same but more focused, now I seem to be trying to fit it all in with a very narrow window of time. Maybe that is the real reason I think of so many things to do with my time. I have time to think about what I can do and then I have more to choose from when I do get time to myself.

Today is Thursday and the girls and I were going to go to the park with the kids and families from playgroup, but they were naughty so I told them we were not going anywhere. Now I have kids that are asking me if they can go somewhere, and maybe late afternoon we will. The sun is hot today and we have a high UV rating. It will be better for them to play later in the day, especially if it is to be outside.

I do marvel at women who have more kids than I and manage a job (full time or part time), manage to look after the house, look after the kids, and more. I find it hard with two and the lack of family that can help, means I don’t know how I will do a job even when kids are in school.

This week is the last week of school holidays aside from next Monday which is a pupil free day (which I find annoying), after two weeks break I only get the kids in school for two days rather than three. So all the things I want to do is now put in those days only. The second week of pre-school will be great as they are back to their full week, yes three days of kids at school! I can do some of the things I have been dreaming, plotting and planning about.

Do you find that in the time that you have for you, there is always too many things to do. I find it hard to pick what to do first. Currently university is the priority, but soon that will not be. I just hope that kids are still in school when university ends. I would like to have some time for me without study. What are your grand plans? Do you get time to do any of them? Send in your comments.

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4 years and beyond

Perils of Sharing a Room

We live in a small house so there is not much choice for where the twins sleep. I have been trying to move them into the spare room as it is bigger and soon they will need bigger beds but the hubby is hanging onto our space for as long as possible. If the kids moved to the bigger room, our study would wind up in their old room, it is just smaller much smaller.

Today like most days I wanted some time for me but it was not to be. I did not want to do anything fancy, just have a rest as I am still unwell due to a bad cold or it could have been the flu, I am not sure. The girls had a big day out at some friends and were looking so tired in the car. We got home and made cupcakes and they were acting like a nap would them the world of good, and I was looking forward to one as well.   I took them to their room after much complaints and yelling by them, as they did not want to go and have a rest, but they finally succumbed. I told them that if they behaved they would get a cupcake each when they get up from their rest.

I thought I was rather clever with this bribe of the cupcake, however it was not to be. Both girls were naughty, yelling, screaming, making so much noise. I had to get up so many times, yell at them to stop. Take them away from each other, and say that if they kept quiet they can sleep with me. Maybe now I can get some sleep? Julia did want to come in the big bed with me and cuddle me but after I offered it she was not interested, and the same with Lillian.

I do believe that the reason that they get up to so much mischief is due to the fact that they are always together and share a bedroom. If they were able to be on their own and not have the stimulation from each other, I think they would have a nap during the day. This day napping has been a thing of the past for years now. I don’t know how other parents of four year olds or even three year olds have them sleep during the day. My girls are keen to do heaps of activities and want to know what the next thing is to do. It is very tiring actually.

Now that we are in school holidays it is going to be a long two weeks for me. What shall I entertain my little bursts of energy with tomorrow? Or the next day. I think going to the park and doing some running with them might be in order, maybe kicking the ball around might help. Saturday is a flower fair that their artwork at school is a feature so thought to go and have a look at that. Sunday friends are coming to lunch so that is some days sorted.  Do you have trouble keeping your energy levels high during school holidays? I know it does not help when you are unwell as I am. Send in suggestions to keep me sane and the kids happy.

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4 years and beyond

Sewing or Study?

Today is the last day of term 3 for pre-school so my last day to myself before 2 weeks of school holidays. So the dilemma today is what to do? I do have many things to fill my time with but what would be the best use of my last day to myself? I really just want to do some sewing although I do desperately need to do some university study and start my assignment. Maybe I could do a bit of both?

I know many women love the school holidays, I for one am not over the moon that I lose my 3 days to myself each week. The girls are into everything and it is hard to keep the energy up all the time to keep the little girls entertained. Let’s just hope that the weather is good for the holidays so that we can go to the park, have some outdoor time and maybe have some play dates with their mates at school.

I think the plan for today is trying to fit in a bit of both, I have been getting more and more frustrated that I have not got back to my sewing and finished off the pants for the girls and started on other projects. Do you feel frustrated when you don’t get to do your own thing? Is it a pet project that you have been wanting to finish or just start?

The university study is also important as contracts law is something that you cannot instantly know so a bit of reading or thinking on some questions might be useful.  I think I will have a look at the assignment today and do a bit of sewing also. This way it will make me feel like I have done something more for me. I am still feeling sick from the flu/a bad cold so not the best. Mostly would like to curl up and go back to bed. However if I do that, I lose the day and will just get annoyed that I have not done anything with it. So I will pop a cold and flu pill and solider on.

Is it just me that has these dilemma’s on what to do with your day? Do you spilt things up so that you feel like you have done a bit of all things you wanted to do? Or is that annoying as you never seem to finish anything? Send in your comments.

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3 years and beyond

Productive Day

Today has been a very productive day. While the twins are at school, I have gone to get a check up, organised paperwork that needed a JP to sign it, gone for a walk, and had lunch. Just need to go out to the chriropractor and then off to pick kids up.

For my walk I went around the oval 6 times and did a little jogging in there as well, although it was mostly walking. I read that if you do jogging as well as walking you burn more fat. So we will see. If you would like to know, I walked for 37mins and 43secs and burnt 290 Cal. It felt good to be out in the sun, breathing the fresh air and to be walking by myself. It is nice to not have kids at your side and to worry about, very relaxing indeed.

My day does not end after kids are picked up, we are off to the child care board meeting. Well I am, the girls are getting looked after by some of the staff. The twins love going there as they can catch up with friends that they don’t see as often and also to see much loved staff members. It is good that we are going as they have been asking to visit.

Now off to have a cuppa tea and sit down in front of the television for a little do nothing time. Send us an email of what you have been up to this lovely sunny day? Hope that it is sunny where you are.

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3 years and beyond

The stress of motherhood

Lately everything is a drama, kids, house and you name it, and it is an issue. I must admit it has been school holidays and I have had sick kids, first Lillian was ill and then it was Julia’s turn. I am just grateful that they have been ill in the holidays. This way I can maximise my time while they are at school and they also don’t miss school (both girls really love going).

Lately the fact of no breaks or any time out has added to my stress, frustration and annoyance. Have no fear; I have had wonderful times with my little princesses. We have cuddled, hugged, danced, watched films, gone on walks, to the park, gone visiting, and just had some fun times, but it has been a trying two weeks.

Is it just me that feels this way? Or am I feeling like a bad mother who just needs a holiday alone, well I can only dream. That said, I don’t think I would like to holiday alone, but some alone time would be lovely.

Do you feel like sometimes all the stresses of the world are upon you? Do you just want to run for the hills? I would never do it, but I have had some great daydreams. What do you do to de-stress? I have had great plans to have a relaxing spa bath with some Epson salts, this has never occurred as kids are up and down to the bathroom and I don’t want to share my bath. Selfish I know but having kids and toys in the bath is not relaxing, it is fun but I want to have some me time. Then the later it gets the colder it gets, so no bath as yet.

I have been trying to have some relaxation time and have attempted to get up early for exercise and me time. Although the getting up early was thwarted due to sick kids, and mummy being exhausted dealing with this.

So will try again for exercise and me time tomorrow morning, and will go to the pool for aqua aerobics. I am making use of daddy being home. Do you have times where things are very stressful or just frustrating beyond belief? How do cope or relax? Send in your comments.