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Mothers Are Not Doormats!

I’m not feeling the love today.

Or actually any other day for that matter.

Today is the day before Mother’s Day and it has been a shit show. In actual fact total crazy chaos at many points throughout the day.

I have had my head in my hands, been in tears and just lost for why my three offspring are acting like beasts. Yes, they are just plain horrible today, and unfortunately on many other occasions.

I am angry and annoyed at everyone’s horrible behaviour – could not find a picture of a mum but this conveys my feelings

I wonder what led to this. Is it me? I do hope not. I have tried so hard to instil order, tell them to be nice and explain that they need to help others. However, no matter how hard I try I am constantly saying:

  • “Just help others”
  • “Help please!”
  • “Do as you are told”
  • “Why is this still not done, I told you hours ago to pick this up”
  • “If you did it the first time it would be done now”
  • “If you actually tidied up it would be done and then you could do something for yourself. Instead, you decide to take a whole day and argue about everything and still do nothing.”

Some have said that the older two are just hormonal…well yes that might be the case but it is not an excuse for not helping and being downright horrible all the time. If I acted the way they are when I was the same age I wouldn’t have been let out of my room and of course not allowed dinner either.

As you can imagine I have had enough and at many points throughout the day I have had fantasies about having a shower, getting dressed and driving somewhere and just doing something for myself (Without telling them this is what I am doing). I do think that Mother’s Day might not be any better. I can hope but it brings me back to the main issue I have with being a mother:

You should not be celebrated and helped on one day alone. You need help and the niceness to be everyday of the year. People need to listen to you, help and assist, and be pleasant to boot. No arguing about having to pick something up from a messy room that is not yours!

I am not the servant.

I am not a slave.

I am a person that actually wants to do more with my life than to keep on telling people to help and what to do. I am sick of the arguments, fights and who does what and also why they cannot due to the fact that they did it before. Geez if this was only a reason for me to not help.

So according to my kids, I can get out of the following as I have done it all before and it is not my job!

  • Doing the laundry
  • Cleaning up the rooms
  • Folding and putting away the laundry
  • Cooking
  • Reminding people of events and things that are important
  • Shopping for food and other essentials
  • Buying gifts and posting them to people (as I am the one that does this for everyone in this family)
  • Caring for others – maybe someone else can step up while I have a good break
  • Probably loads more points but I cannot think of them at the moment – I will claim that due to me being an overworked mum I can name other points later.

In the current climate, I feel that if I say or do something it gets ignored. I tell someone to do something and it does not happen. I ask for help and it doesn’t happen.

God forbid I have a horrible accident and bleeding out and the kids argue whose turn it is to call the ambulance. I think I would die on my floor if that was the case.

The girls told me one of their friend’s mums just left for a four-day camping trip during the last school holidays. They told me that this mum hadn’t told the kid that they were going on holiday alone, however, I would think that this woman told her partner and all was good. She decided she needed a break alone and went for it. Maybe I need to do this.

I am thinking of declining any family-forced outing tomorrow and would love to take off and do my own thing for Mother’s Day. I need to get some jeans and a nice trip to the shops, a quiet lunch on my own would be rather relaxing.

Are you feeling the same way about Mother’s Day? Or are you just wanting people to stop ignoring you and appreciate you and what you do for them? I believe that some ignoring others and not giving others what they want might wake them up to their silly behaviour. I am exhausted and so over the rudeness.

Oh, and one thing that fucking annoyed me so much was the fact that one of the oldest cannot hang out the clothes properly. She just dumped clothes and other items on the line without opening them up, so shirts were folded over themselves with sleeves still inside the shirt, also jumpers were folded over and just lumped on the line, expecting them to dry was just ridiculous! I ended up redoing it all. You would think they would get it by now, I have told them over a million times. I believe they are doing this on purpose so they don’t have to help! Why can’t they do anything I ask???? Also, why is it a shit job that needs to be redone so, in reality, there is no point asking for help in the first place!

What about you? I think booking that holiday alone is a good idea. I will look into this as a priority. Now, where to go that will not cost the earth is the next question.

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Just Like Me

The other day one of the girls walked into the kitchen bawling her eyes out. She was so upset she could hardly tell me what the issue was. Once she calmed down a bit I finally learnt what the problem was.

I did initially think that she or her sister had hurt themselves and we might need to take a trip to the hospital. Thank goodness it wasn’t the case.

The kid who was extremely upset told me that she was very sad that Amy Pond and Rory had died. For those that are not aware of these names or characters, they are in Doctor Who. Yes my girls take after hubby and I with their love for the Doctor.

Amy Pond and Rory Williams, from Doctor Who. Image found on Pinterest.
Amy Pond and Rory Williams, from Doctor Who. Image found on Pinterest.

I tired so hard to make her feel better but she kept on saying things about Amy and Rory like they were real people…… OH gosh… what do I do now???? She is a sensitive little bunny and these things upset her. I was like her as a child.

Yes there are moments that I get frustrated at behaviour and then realise that I am exactly the same. Do you do this too?
Yes there are moments that I get frustrated at behaviour and then realise that I am exactly the same. Do you do this too?

One thing that I did say was how about we watch the next episode to see what happens….So I will do that with her to see what happens next. From memory all works out well….but she does not know that.

Although I was shocked at her attachment and upset for the characters of Doctor Who, I had to think back to what I did when I saw this episode for the first time.

I did the same thing. Yes I cry and get very upset. I do the same thing when one doctor dies and he morphs into a new person…. I get to love and like the doctor and I don’t want them to change at all…However it does change and therefore it means more upset from me and now from one of my girls.

It got me thinking about that saying “That awkward moment when you find yourself being frustrated with your child…For behaving just like you.”

I am getting annoyed that she gets upset easily…however I have completely forgotten that I do the same thing. It is major to a child if their favourite characters die in a show or a book. It is very upsetting as an adult too.

I made sure that we had cuddles and kisses and talked about it, she felt a bit better after some nice mummy cuddles.

Have you had moments that your little ones have pushed your buttons to then realise that their behaviour is exactly like yours? Let us know what happened.

 

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Our Vivid Experience

This was our Vivid experience in 2016.

We went to Vivid last Saturday night. Hubby and I had never been, either had the kids. I must say that we were rather excited about our impending adventures.

However they were dashed quite quickly. The crowds and very rude people made the night not as fun as it was meant to be.

I know we chose to go on the long weekend, we chose a weekend and you have to expect it to be busy and crowded. BUT I did not expect to be pushed at every chance anybody got. I like others were on top of others just trying to walk to the Opera House to see the lights. During this horrible walk I had many people try to walk on top of my kids, one lady in particular try and push me away from my family and I lost touch of the twins. I had to have a word with this terrible person. I told her that I don’t know where she was going but pushing people and making me lose my kids and family was not on, not in a crowd like that.

The kids and I at Vivid last Saturday. This picture was taken when we could finally move around freely and not be on top of others. It was nice to be able to walk and to sit on our own. One thing that was lovely was the amazing view and the lights.
The kids and I at Vivid last Saturday. This picture was taken when we could finally move around freely and not be on top of others. It was nice to be able to walk and to sit on our own. One thing that was lovely was the amazing view and the lights. Please forgive the graininess of the photo. It was dark and hard to get a good image with the phone.

I also chatted with a lovely man who was helping his mate in a wheelchair walk back from the Opera House. He said that it was feral. People were not seeing the wheel chair and trying to walk on them also. Just chaos!

At one point hubby had to yell at a woman to watch what she was doing. Her bag just narrowly missed the babies head. Yes no one seemed to see the pram either. I think we all turned invisible that night as many people decided they could not see us. Maybe we were wearing Eric the Viking’s Cloak of Invisibility? If so it finally works!

The walkways were a free for all. I would have thought that one side would be for getting to the Opera House and the other for going back to George Street and the trains. It was not to be. Due to all this chaos the kids only experienced two hands on lightening installations at the Quay. There was no way to make it to other installations and get there in one piece. From our perspective it was very dangerous. If there was a disaster or say fire happened I’m sure we would have been trampled as the crowed would have stampeded to safety.

I do understand that this is a popular event. Sydney has many visitors and therefore this means crowds. However we picked late afternoon to early evening to make sure that we were not in the way.

Maybe in the future there could be more family friendly events and times? I know that they said it was family friendly but we did not experience this last weekend.

How about having more control over the crowds. Having people police the crowds and monitor lines: having one side for one direction and the other for the opposite. Just common sense actually.

I’m not sure if they are doing this currently but maybe having free shuttle buses to other destinations around the city would encourage more movement of people (they did close many streets to help with access and this was a good thing to do. It was a good help and one of the only pluses of the night) This way the crowds are always moving and not staying in one spot all the time. I know this would cause other issues such as waiting for buses and other connections but maybe with frequent buses or trains this could be avoided. Or the wait would be very small compared to the possibility of being pushed and shoved to see the pretty lights.

One thing that I could not understand. Vivid closed a section of the walk way to go towards the Opera House. They then made you go back onto the road to then walk around this closed section of walk way, this meant that we were again on top of many if not hundreds of people. Once we then turned the corner we noticed that the walkway was all open once you got around the bend. Why would they close this small section to have you in human traffic chaos! Just a disaster all round if you ask me. Why not have all the walk way open to encourage people to go everywhere and to of course to not have an angry mob happen.

Once we did get out of the bumper to bumper human traffic it was rather pleasant. Due to us having the baby and a pram we were able to access the bottom walk way at the Opera House. This allowed the kids to run around, me to sit down with the baby and to marvel at the lights of the Opera House and the rest of the harbour.

 

 

 

It was a HUGE pity that we did not see and do more. We were expecting so much more.

Did you go to Vivid? Were you at Circular Quay? Or did you go to Taronga Zoo? How about Darling Harbour or The Botanical Gardens?

 

 

What were your thoughts? Did you have a great time or were you stuck in human traffic with extremely rude and horrible people like us. Let us know.

 

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Last day of term

Yo Gabba Gabba fake Tattoos
Fake tattoos

Today is the last day of term 1 for pre-school. I must say that I have really enjoyed the time to myself on these three days, and I am looking forward to the holidays. However, I am also going to be counting down the days when school starts again.

Before we could leave the house, I promised the girls that they could get some fake tattoos of some Yo Gabba Gabba characters. Lillian wanted Toodee and Julia wanted Foofa (The tattoo was the character and their name). To my great surprise Lillian recognised nearly all off the letters in Toodee’s name aside from the e.  Once the girls had their tattoos, I was able to put their hair up (the girls have taken to not wanting their hair up, to an annoyed mummy), so this was a fantastic.

After I dropped the girls off at school, I did two laps around Catalina Park, the weather this week has been so lovely, sunshine, warm weather and just divine. I know it is just great weather, so who cares. Well, when you have had nonstop rain for months this is just wonderful.  How I missed having a summer.

I am feeling great that I have done more for project slinky and will try and get more done each day.  Now need to focus and get stuck into my assignment for university or I will be in trouble, the plan is to do some now, tonight, tomorrow and Friday night, and hopefully all done so then can submit on the weekend.

 

Julia and Lilian on last day of school for term 1
Last day of school

Do you get upset when school goes on holidays? Is it just me that is feeling like this?  I know holidays are good and fun, however my holiday is when they are at school. Send your comments in.

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Don’t leave mummy

The moon night light
Mooney Mooney - The moon night light

Yesterday the girls were great, we got to pre-school and they just waved goodbye and off they went to play with some other kids. I was so pleased that they were happy and content to just leave. The other week they were a bit clingy, so was very happy that this stage has passed, or so I thought.

Today the girls were so all over the place. I thought this might end as soon as they see friends and new things to do. I was wrong.  The girls did not want to get in the front door of the school, go in without me, or even want to let me go. Julia was in tears, and so was Lillian. Lillian started first, she was a mess. A lovely staff member helped me out so that I could leave. I told the girls that they can make me a picture. This seemed to calm them down for a bit. I made my way to the door, and then I heard Julia cry and get upset. I kept on walking. It was hard, I wanted to stay, but this is their school day and my day off to get things done. If I stayed it will just make leaving them at school so much harder.

I was amazed at the difference in them from yesterday and today. Other parents today were having the same issue, so at least it is not just my kids. It might be down to the weather. While driving to school today the girls noticed that it is darker and looks like we are going to have a thunderstorm, Julia was getting worried as she did not like thunder or storms. I told her that it will not be a worry; she will be inside all safe and sound. She was still worried. Lillian then said, “Don’t worry Julia, I will look after you”. How sweet is that, what a nice little girl Lillian is to offer that for her sister.

The weather yesterday was sunny, hot and just lovely. I managed to do 3 loads of washing and have them all dried on the line. The girls came home from school and wanted to go to the park. I was a bit worried that we might need to stop home for a toilet stop before the park, however the girls were insistent that it was o.k. I thought I would take them at their word, but was still worried. I did have change of clothes in their school bags so that will just have to do. The girls asked what the building was away from the playground. I explained that this was the toilets, and if you need to go, just tell me and we will all go. I mentioned that if one needs to go, we all need to go. I did not want to leave one playing in the park without me supervising. I am worried that someone might just take a child while I am away looking after the other. If that happened, I would not know where to start looking or what to do.  We were good, Lillian told me that she need to go to the toilet and started to run towards the toilets and I grabbed Julia and we ran off to catch up with Lilly.  They waited for me to help them and both went to the toilet on the big toilet. I was so proud and happy that they are doing this. Well done girls.  Also that evening Lillian insisted on using the big toilet rather than the potty. Currently they have steps to get to the big toilet, however they are still a bit small and need help to get up.

Yesterday picked up “Moon in my room”, that I ordered for the girls. It is a moon that you hang on the wall of your room and it is powered by batteries. This moon goes through all the phases of the moon, waxing and waning.  It looked great; however I need to get the batteries for the remote control. The girls were so excited to have mooney mooney, (that is what they call the moon), in the room.  I must see if we can get it to work tonight so that they can have mooney mooney again as a night light.

So today is a day of tidying, and sorting and hopefully some exercise. We will see if I get that done, but the tidying is of utmost importance as the place is a bit messy and would like it to look nicer. Tonight will need to do some study and reading for university as there is a lot to do, also have confirmed that there is an exam, however it is open book so that is a good thing.

I hope that the girls will have a good day at school and that they have found things to do and friends to play with. It is so hard when they are upset when you drop them off. How do you handle it if your child/children don’t want you to leave? Do you find things for them to do at the school; do you stay for a bit and then leave? What is the best thing to do? Send your comments.

 

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3 years and beyond Potty Training Pre-School Uncategorised University Study

Don't leave mummy

The moon night light
Mooney Mooney - The moon night light

Yesterday the girls were great, we got to pre-school and they just waved goodbye and off they went to play with some other kids. I was so pleased that they were happy and content to just leave. The other week they were a bit clingy, so was very happy that this stage has passed, or so I thought.

Today the girls were so all over the place. I thought this might end as soon as they see friends and new things to do. I was wrong.  The girls did not want to get in the front door of the school, go in without me, or even want to let me go. Julia was in tears, and so was Lillian. Lillian started first, she was a mess. A lovely staff member helped me out so that I could leave. I told the girls that they can make me a picture. This seemed to calm them down for a bit. I made my way to the door, and then I heard Julia cry and get upset. I kept on walking. It was hard, I wanted to stay, but this is their school day and my day off to get things done. If I stayed it will just make leaving them at school so much harder.

I was amazed at the difference in them from yesterday and today. Other parents today were having the same issue, so at least it is not just my kids. It might be down to the weather. While driving to school today the girls noticed that it is darker and looks like we are going to have a thunderstorm, Julia was getting worried as she did not like thunder or storms. I told her that it will not be a worry; she will be inside all safe and sound. She was still worried. Lillian then said, “Don’t worry Julia, I will look after you”. How sweet is that, what a nice little girl Lillian is to offer that for her sister.

The weather yesterday was sunny, hot and just lovely. I managed to do 3 loads of washing and have them all dried on the line. The girls came home from school and wanted to go to the park. I was a bit worried that we might need to stop home for a toilet stop before the park, however the girls were insistent that it was o.k. I thought I would take them at their word, but was still worried. I did have change of clothes in their school bags so that will just have to do. The girls asked what the building was away from the playground. I explained that this was the toilets, and if you need to go, just tell me and we will all go. I mentioned that if one needs to go, we all need to go. I did not want to leave one playing in the park without me supervising. I am worried that someone might just take a child while I am away looking after the other. If that happened, I would not know where to start looking or what to do.  We were good, Lillian told me that she need to go to the toilet and started to run towards the toilets and I grabbed Julia and we ran off to catch up with Lilly.  They waited for me to help them and both went to the toilet on the big toilet. I was so proud and happy that they are doing this. Well done girls.  Also that evening Lillian insisted on using the big toilet rather than the potty. Currently they have steps to get to the big toilet, however they are still a bit small and need help to get up.

Yesterday picked up “Moon in my room”, that I ordered for the girls. It is a moon that you hang on the wall of your room and it is powered by batteries. This moon goes through all the phases of the moon, waxing and waning.  It looked great; however I need to get the batteries for the remote control. The girls were so excited to have mooney mooney, (that is what they call the moon), in the room.  I must see if we can get it to work tonight so that they can have mooney mooney again as a night light.

So today is a day of tidying, and sorting and hopefully some exercise. We will see if I get that done, but the tidying is of utmost importance as the place is a bit messy and would like it to look nicer. Tonight will need to do some study and reading for university as there is a lot to do, also have confirmed that there is an exam, however it is open book so that is a good thing.

I hope that the girls will have a good day at school and that they have found things to do and friends to play with. It is so hard when they are upset when you drop them off. How do you handle it if your child/children don’t want you to leave? Do you find things for them to do at the school; do you stay for a bit and then leave? What is the best thing to do? Send your comments.

 

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There’s a bee in my ear mummy!

The girls were in bed and hubby was finally home. He was in the living room having his dinner. Then a huge blood curdling scream came from both girls. We both ran to their room. I was dreading what we would find. A kid who has a bleeding head? No, Julia was traumatised due to a bee that supposedly worked its way into her ear.

The bee that annoyed Julia? Well we think it was a mozzie... but she told us we were wrong!
The bee that annoyed Julia? Well we think it was a mozzie… but she told us we were wrong!

Julia kept on yelling “Get the bee out of my ear!!!” “Have a look, get it out, I can still hear it”.  While Julia was carrying on, Lillian was screaming and crying all the while holding bummies up to her ears just in case a bee flew into her ears. For those that don’t know, bummies are Lillian’s teddies. There are 2 of them and both are called bummies. It was very hard to take Lillian seriously when she had her teddies at each ear. She looked so cute and funny, however she was getting annoyed at us nearly laughing, we had to look serious and not laugh at this major issue.

Lillian was demanding that we take Julia to the hospital, but said as hossitpol, I explained that this was not needed. Daddy checked Julia’s ear and it was fine. I checked Julia’s ear and it is fine. She did not accept this until daddy pretended to get the bee out of her ear.

I think what happened was due to the window being open, so I closed the window to make sure it did not happen again. Maybe an insect flew near her head, or a mozzie and she freaked out. They are very tired due to running around and being at school all day. Now the bee incident has made them very upset.

While we were talking to Lillian she covered her ears to be on the safe side with her teddies. She eventually put her face down on the pillow at the end of Julia’s bed (yes still wanting to share a bed with her sister) she had her teddy protecting her ear.

After many kisses and cuddles, both girls finally put heads down and I was able to get out of the door and back to dinner.

A word of warning, be careful of dangerous bees before bed time.

 

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There's a bee in my ear mummy!

The girls were in bed and hubby was finally home. He was in the living room having his dinner. Then a huge blood curdling scream came from both girls. We both ran to their room. I was dreading what we would find. A kid who has a bleeding head? No, Julia was traumatised due to a bee that supposedly worked its way into her ear.

The bee that annoyed Julia? Well we think it was a mozzie... but she told us we were wrong!
The bee that annoyed Julia? Well we think it was a mozzie… but she told us we were wrong!

Julia kept on yelling “Get the bee out of my ear!!!” “Have a look, get it out, I can still hear it”.  While Julia was carrying on, Lillian was screaming and crying all the while holding bummies up to her ears just in case a bee flew into her ears. For those that don’t know, bummies are Lillian’s teddies. There are 2 of them and both are called bummies. It was very hard to take Lillian seriously when she had her teddies at each ear. She looked so cute and funny, however she was getting annoyed at us nearly laughing, we had to look serious and not laugh at this major issue.

Lillian was demanding that we take Julia to the hospital, but said as hossitpol, I explained that this was not needed. Daddy checked Julia’s ear and it was fine. I checked Julia’s ear and it is fine. She did not accept this until daddy pretended to get the bee out of her ear.

I think what happened was due to the window being open, so I closed the window to make sure it did not happen again. Maybe an insect flew near her head, or a mozzie and she freaked out. They are very tired due to running around and being at school all day. Now the bee incident has made them very upset.

While we were talking to Lillian she covered her ears to be on the safe side with her teddies. She eventually put her face down on the pillow at the end of Julia’s bed (yes still wanting to share a bed with her sister) she had her teddy protecting her ear.

After many kisses and cuddles, both girls finally put heads down and I was able to get out of the door and back to dinner.

A word of warning, be careful of dangerous bees before bed time.

 

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3 years and beyond

No butterfly in a glass of water

Lately the girls seem to be curious about all creatures and insects. Julia and Lillian have a fascination for catching butterflies.

I have repeated and told both girls to be nice to creatures, leave scary ones alone and to just watch things to see what they do and to learn. However as you will see by reading on, it has not sunk in. While in the kitchen organising their dinner, Lillian proudly came in to show me something. I was busy with plates, and food so it took me a while to look down. Lillian kept on saying, “Mummy, Mummy look!!” I finally looked and saw that she had a butterfly in her fingers. I was shocked and also privately amazed that she managed to catch it with her fingers. Both girls have been running around the backyard trying to catch one, however never thought that would ever happen.

I then explained that it is cruel to have taken the butterfly out of his/her environment and they needed to put it back as soon as possible. This was met with, “Mummy I wanted to put it in water”, I then explained that this was not what butterflies want to do (This idea of putting the butterfly in water is probably due to going to pick flowers and putting them in water). They are much happier outside where they can fly around. I am very sad to report that Julia and Lillian fought over who was going to take the poor insect outside and then tore it’s wing. I had to take the poor thing outside and hope for the best. I was very upset, and used this as hopefully the last example of why they have to be nice to things and to not hurt or injure creatures. I told them it is very cruel and would they like this done to them? Both girls said no and were upset.

It made me think that it is probably just the age of the girls, getting more involved in their environment and surroundings, becoming more curious, and being told to not touch or leave something alone makes them want to even more. This amazement is not meant to hurt and the fact that they want to get so close to the new creatures is just wonderful, just a pity that they are too keen and at times clumsy, that it ends up not the way you had hoped for. I know I did similar things as a child, but it was never nasty or hurtful, this is why I know that it is the age and it is all innocent. It is just a matter of instilling the values of protecting animals.

Does your child do the same thing with insects, or little creatures? The twins are still learning and don’t know not to do things, for example, that butterflies will not want to be put into a glass of water. Does anyone have any tips or tricks for this sort of thing? I currently just explain what has happened, why it is good to just observe and enjoy the insect in their environment. What have you done with your child/children? What did you get up to as a kid? Did this happen to you?