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Selena Gomez takes Social Media Break & Why You Should Too!

Why is it a good idea to take a technology break? Find out 5 reasons why taking a technology detox can help you feel better.

Selena Gomez‘s decision to take a break from social media for the sake of her mental health is a brave and wise choice. While social media has its benefits, such as staying connected with loved ones and discovering new ideas and information, it can also be a source of stress and negative emotions for teenagers, as it has the potential to amplify feelings of comparison, bullying, and isolation.

P!nk has recently shared that she has received hateful and horrible messages in the media over very old articles years ago. The focus should really be on her new album and all the hard work that went into it, however, the media are focused on rehashing things from when she was in her 20’s, just silly if you ask me. The issue here is that P!nk is honest in her interviews and tells it how it is – I find it interesting that if you have an honest opinion even if you say that you didn’t get on with someone and have since made up with that person that the news that these comments keep getting retold and beat up. Honestly, I think P!nk is amazing and love her raw honesty, passion and hard work. See the social media bashing is happening to us all!

I’m a lot older than Selena and I’m an avid user of social media. However, there are times that I look at some people’s images and accounts and get rather depressed. I am sad about how amazing their life looks; they look stunning in their designer outfits, they have an awesome home and have the perfect vacation overseas with their family. Oh how I would wish for that too. I like Selena have purposefully taken a break from being online, removing my phone from being close to me, not taking my phone with me when I am out or not looking at any of my accounts or sharing what I am up to for a while. What about you?

Teenagers and social media

Firstly, social media encourages teenagers to constantly compare themselves to others. This constant comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and even depression. Teenagers are bombarded with images of “perfect” bodies, luxurious lifestyles, and seemingly flawless relationships, which can lead to unrealistic expectations and a distorted view of reality.

Secondly, social media can be a breeding ground for bullying. Anonymous accounts and online anonymity can make it easy for bullies to target their victims, causing serious emotional distress. Cyberbullying can have severe consequences, including depression, anxiety, and even suicide.

Lastly, social media can prevent teenagers from developing meaningful relationships in real-life situations. It’s essential for teenagers to have face-to-face interactions with their peers and to engage in activities that allow them to develop social skills, such as team sports, clubs, and volunteering. Social media can be a tempting substitute for real-life interactions, but it can never fully replace the importance of human connection.

My kids have had some issues with bullies online (It is so easy to be horrible to people when you are anonymous, right!). These bullies used fake accounts and created made-up things about the kids to share with their friend groups. All of this was disgusting and horrible and of course not true, however for teenagers or younger kids having this happen is a nightmare. I did try and tell my kids to just not look at the phone and ignore it. Or maybe just delete the app altogether. However, this response was met by the kids saying “my friends will think that we are ignoring them and more!” My response was that if these people are truly your friends ignoring them on the app is not the end of the world, then explaining in real life via a face-to-face will be what is needed.

When I grew up there were no mobile phones, no internet and no social media! The only way to connect was face to face and if you did have a disagreement you would just not play with this person for a while until you made up or it could be forever depending on the relationship or what had happened.

Social media has its benefits, it’s important for teenagers to be aware of the potential negative effects it can have on their mental health. Taking breaks from social media and engaging in real-life interactions can help teenagers develop meaningful relationships, improve their social skills, and prevent feelings of comparison, bullying, and isolation.

Being online constantly can have both positive and negative effects on mental health. On the one hand, it can provide social connection and support, especially for individuals who may feel isolated or marginalized. It can also serve as a platform for self-expression and creativity.

On the other hand, social media can also lead to negative consequences. Excessive social media use can contribute to feelings of anxiety, depression, and loneliness, especially if individuals compare themselves unfavourably to others on social media. The pressure to maintain a curated online presence can also be stressful and overwhelming, negatively impacting mental health, and not a real way of living and being. It would take a toll on anyone to have to keep up with the illusion of fantasy at all times.

Taking a break from social media, as Selena Gomez did, can be a helpful way to prioritize mental health and focus on oneself. It can provide an opportunity for individuals to disconnect from the constant barrage of information and comparison on social media, and instead focus on personal growth and well-being. I for one have felt that there has been a lot of bad news, so stepping away from the news sites, social media and tv reports for me has been helpful too.

Being online all the time is not good for you. A break is a good thing to have.

Taking a technology detox, or a break from technology, can offer several benefits:

  1. Reduced stress and anxiety: Technology can be overwhelming and create feelings of stress and anxiety. Taking a break from technology can help you relax and unwind.

  2. Improved sleep: Exposure to the blue light emitted by electronic devices can interfere with your sleep cycle. Taking a break from technology can help improve your sleep quality and quantity.

  3. Increased productivity: Technology can be a major distraction, and taking a break can help you focus on important tasks and be more productive.

  4. Improved mental health: Constant use of technology can lead to feelings of depression and isolation. Taking a break can help you connect with people in real life and improve your overall mental health.

  5. More time for other activities: Technology can be time-consuming, and taking a break can free up time for other activities, such as exercise, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones.

Overall, a technology detox can help you recharge, refocus, and reconnect with yourself and others.

Have you taken a technology detox? Was it just on your social media? How did you feel after your break?

Yep and I understand the irony of me writing this for my online blog…even if you just take a break from your phone for the weekend, or just during the evenings, it will help you feel better.

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Celebrate Season 2 of ‘Only Murders in the Building’ and make some Dip

The show ‘Only Murders in the Building’ reminds me of Alfred Hitchcock’s ‘Rear Window’. The show looks into other people’s apartments and bit by bit you learn more about their lives. As a viewer, you get involved, invested, and need to find out what will happen next. The art deco animation for the intro titles is also reminiscent of old films, well I think it is.

Learn about the Art of the Arconia

DID YOU KNOW
Sesason 1 of ‘Only Murders in the Building’ was the most watched show on Hulu

I just love Selena Gomez’s outfit from the first season of Only Murders in the Building

What are Only Murders in the Building about?

Only Murders in the Building is an American mystery-comedy streaming television series created by Steve Martin and John Hoffman. The ten-episode first season premiered on Hulu on August 31, 2021. The plot follows three strangers played by Steve Martin, Martin Short, and Selena Gomez, who share an obsession with a true-crime podcast. After a suspicious death in their affluent Upper West Side apartment building, the Arconia, the three neighbors decide to start their own podcast about their investigation of the death, which the police ruled a suicide.” Wikipedia.

I loved the show and have been waiting eagerly for season 2. It is so cleverly written, acted, and a well-cast show. A joy to watch!

Have you ever thought there might be secret things hidden in the opening titles? If you have, well you were right. Brian Cronin from Pop Culture References has a complete list of all of the opening titles Easter Eggs from Only Murders in the Building Season 1.

One of the Hardy Boy books from Tim Kono’s apartment

Season 2 of Only Murders in the Building starts 28th of June 2022

Steve Martin as Charles-Haden Savage in Season 2. Charles is shocked at being accused of murder.
Martin Short as Oliver Putnam in season 2 and not happy about being accused of murder.
Selena Gomez as Mabel Mora having her photo taken at the police station in season 2. It is not looking good for Mabel having blood over her shirt.

Oliver, who is played by Martin Short exclusively eats dips. “I haven’t had a real entree in years,” he proudly shares. “It’s all containers and fingers.”

While Oliver (Martin Short), Mabel (Selena Gomez), and Charles (Steve Martin) attended the body corporate meeting to discuss the recent murder and there were a bunch of dips for the residents. Oliver decided to take them all as he declared it a meal and why waste it!

Celebrate Season 2 of Only Murders in the Building while eating dip!

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    Spicy Sesame Guacamole ready to eat

    Spicy Sesame Guacamole

    INGREDIENTS

    • 4 medium ripe avocados, peeled and pitted (or 1 pack of frozen avocado pieces thawed)
    • 2 limes juiced
    • 2- 4 green onions, coarsely chopped, plus extra for garnish (if you have fewer avocados use less onion.
    • 4 tbsp. chopped coriander
    • 2 tsp. chilli garlic paste
    • 1 tsp. soy sauce
    • 1/2 tsp. salt
    • 1/4 tsp. sesame seeds
    Toasted sesame seeds on the Spicy Sesame Guacamole

    DIRECTIONS

    1. In a large bowl, mash avocados and lime juice with a fork or potato masher to desired consistency, leaving some chunks. Stir in green onions, coriander, chilli garlic paste, soy sauce, and salt.

    2. Garnish with sesame seeds and serve immediately with tortilla chips or crackers. You can make it ahead. Make sure to place plastic wrap directly on top of the guacamole to prevent browning and refrigerate.

    Beetroot Houmous

    INGREDIENTS

    • 1 cup Chickpeas cooked
    • 1 medium Beetroot
    • 2 cloves of Garlic
    • 1 tbsp Lemon juice 1/2 tsp Cumin Powder
    • 1/2 tsp Salt
    • Water to thin out
    Cutting up the beetroot

    INSTRUCTIONS

    Step 1: Cut up beetroot and cook in a pot with a little water over medium heat. Cook till soft. Cool down the beetroot before starting step 2.

    Step 2: In a food processor, place chickpeas and cooked beetroot and process for one minute or until smooth. Add garlic, lemon juice, cumin powder, and salt and process by adding water to thin the mixture out.

    Step 3: Refrigerate or enjoy immediately. The dip should last for a week in an airtight container.

    Beetroot Houmous

    Roasted Eggplant Dip

    INGREDIENTS

    • 1 large eggplant
    • 1 lemon, juiced
    • 3 garlic cloves
    • 1/2 Spanish onion, quartered
    • 1/2 cup parsley
    • 4 slices of bread
    • Olive oil
    • Salt and pepper to season

    INSTRUCTIONS

    Step 1: Preheat the oven to 180°C.
    Step 2: Cut the eggplant in half and place it on a baking tray, cut side up. Bake in the oven until the eggplant is brown and soft.
    Step 3: Remove from the oven and allow to cool for five minutes before peeling back the skin of the eggplant from the soft flesh. (Don’t wait too long to peel off the skin or else it will be stuck).
    Step 4: Purée all ingredients in a food processor for 60 seconds before drizzling in the olive oil. You’ll need to add the olive oil slowly and add just enough to bring all the ingredients together into a thick paste. Season with salt and pepper and blitz again.
    Step 5: Serve with bread or crackers.

    Eggplant cut and ready to cook

    Roasted Pumpkin & Cumin Houmous

    INGREDIENTS

    500g pumpkin, peeled, seeded, cut into 3cm pieces 400g can chickpeas, rinsed, drained
    1 garlic clove, crushed
    1 tbsp ground cumin
    2 tbsp fresh lemon juice
    80ml (1/3 cup) olive oil
    Chopped fresh continental parsley, to serve Crackers or bread to serve

    INSTRUCTIONS

    Step 1: Preheat the oven to 200°C. Line a baking tray with non-stick baking paper. Bake for around 30-35 minutes, until the pumpkin is soft. Set aside for around 20 minutes to cool down before you start the next step.
    Step 2: Process the pumpkin, chickpeas, garlic and cumin in a food processor until almost smooth. Add the lemon juice and process until well combined.
    Step 3: With the motor running, add the oil in a thin steady stream until smooth. Once done, transfer the hummus to a bowl. Sprinkle with parsley and serve with crackers or bread.

    Enjoy the dips while you watch the new season of Only Murders in the Building.