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Family

First Words

About four weeks ago now Alexander said mumma! It happened when one of the girls wanted to cuddle him and he did not want to leave me. It was so nice to hear the word said. However, he has not said much since. Some garbles of sounds that might be mumma or dadda but not exactly. Some other mutterings that are just loud noises. He is definitely practicing with pitch and sounds; he is very loud when he gets going.

When did your little baby say their first words? What did they say?
When did your little baby say their first words? What did they say?

As you can imagine I have been hanging for a repeat on him saying more words. I think I will claim that his first word was mumma but I wondered what else he would say and when.

Last Sunday hubby was telling the baby that his name is Alexander. He said it slowly and then the baby repeated sounds that did sound like he said his own name. However, this too has not been repeated. I suppose it is a start.

I speak to Alexander about everything I am doing. I might look like a mad person when I’m shopping with him as I am having a full conversation with him and of course he cannot answer. Explaining things to your child even if they cannot speak is a great thing to do. It helps with them learning language and fosters great engagement.

This is what I do to encourage talking:

  • When the baby gurgles I talk about what I think it means. I engage with my little boy and have a fun pretend conversation.
  • When I am out and about I talk to my baby about where we are going, what we are doing and point out interesting things to look at or touch. For example, if we are at the park, I let him touch tree trunks, leaves and the grass. It is a great interactive experience.
  • I sing songs and also create some very sill ones as well. If I am doing something boring I make up a silly song to make it fun for the baby. It also helps me have fun and play with him as well.
  • When my little boy babbles away I make sure to listen to what he has to say. I leave a gap and then respond. It is just like we are having a real conversation.
  • When I change his nappy I talk about body parts; feet, hands, knees, cheeks, head. I also talk about clothes, socks and different colours. This helps your little one recognise words and items.
  • I also repeat names of our little boy’s sisters so that he can learn to know how to say their names also.
  • We read books together and I have some books that are tactile that allow him to touch and feel different things. However mostly when I read it is to the bigger kids and the baby wants to grab the books. I do read baby appropriate books to Alexander and he loves the bright colours and funny drawings.

I did all this with my twin girls and they were talking early. Maybe Alexander will be the same?

I’m still waiting for our little person to say more words or at least say mumma more than once. It will be interesting to see what word he says next.

What word did your little one say first?

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Family

Just Like Me

The other day one of the girls walked into the kitchen bawling her eyes out. She was so upset she could hardly tell me what the issue was. Once she calmed down a bit I finally learnt what the problem was.

I did initially think that she or her sister had hurt themselves and we might need to take a trip to the hospital. Thank goodness it wasn’t the case.

The kid who was extremely upset told me that she was very sad that Amy Pond and Rory had died. For those that are not aware of these names or characters, they are in Doctor Who. Yes my girls take after hubby and I with their love for the Doctor.

Amy Pond and Rory Williams, from Doctor Who. Image found on Pinterest.
Amy Pond and Rory Williams, from Doctor Who. Image found on Pinterest.

I tired so hard to make her feel better but she kept on saying things about Amy and Rory like they were real people…… OH gosh… what do I do now???? She is a sensitive little bunny and these things upset her. I was like her as a child.

Yes there are moments that I get frustrated at behaviour and then realise that I am exactly the same. Do you do this too?
Yes there are moments that I get frustrated at behaviour and then realise that I am exactly the same. Do you do this too?

One thing that I did say was how about we watch the next episode to see what happens….So I will do that with her to see what happens next. From memory all works out well….but she does not know that.

Although I was shocked at her attachment and upset for the characters of Doctor Who, I had to think back to what I did when I saw this episode for the first time.

I did the same thing. Yes I cry and get very upset. I do the same thing when one doctor dies and he morphs into a new person…. I get to love and like the doctor and I don’t want them to change at all…However it does change and therefore it means more upset from me and now from one of my girls.

It got me thinking about that saying “That awkward moment when you find yourself being frustrated with your child…For behaving just like you.”

I am getting annoyed that she gets upset easily…however I have completely forgotten that I do the same thing. It is major to a child if their favourite characters die in a show or a book. It is very upsetting as an adult too.

I made sure that we had cuddles and kisses and talked about it, she felt a bit better after some nice mummy cuddles.

Have you had moments that your little ones have pushed your buttons to then realise that their behaviour is exactly like yours? Let us know what happened.

 

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5 years and beyond

Swearing at Kids Is Not On!

Angry Man.Image courtesy of sumetho at FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Angry Man.Image courtesy of sumetho at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

While on a train ride home I noticed a family. There was the mother, father, grandad and child who was a little boy. This little boy could have been five years old but looked small so maybe under five. Hard to know. My girls are small and always taken for younger.

The reason I noticed this family was due to some bad language. I am not a fuddy-duddy but when you speak like that to kids it is just not right. I do slip from time to time but make sure to let my girls know that this type of language and words are not on and I make sure not to speak like that. If I do it is to myself and when kids are in bed!

Now for the most upsetting part. The family moved to empty seats that were in front of me. These seats were facing each other to allow the family more room. The mother, grandfather and child came to the new seats first. Then the father.

When the father approached the seats he went off at his child something fierce. He said, “F*#K, why are we moving seats!  I don’t see why this will give us more room! This was all directed at his little boy. Why is this his problem? Does it matter where you sit as long as you are together?

If this is how he talks to his child in public what happens at home? Maybe I am a fuddy-duddy by thinking these things. How your parents treat you affects the rest of your life. My father was scary, mean and violent. I was terrified of him and wondered what he would do next. When I was younger I stuttered and was extremely shy due to this. I am not like this now. Kids are impressionable and they need to be nurtured not sworn at for moving seats on a train!

Have you encountered bad behaviour especially with language from parents towards children? Kids repeat what they see and hear. If you are swearing they will do it to you and others. Have times changed that much that this is acceptable? I never knew certain words like these until I was much older. Maybe it was my family or how I was brought up? Or is it a sign of the times?

What are your thoughts?