Laundry done. Now need to put it away. Image courtesy of Keerati / FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Do you have issues with doing everything with the house? I am in a bit of a funk due to being seen as the person that does all the housework! I hate it, and have never loved housework. What about you? Why is it that suddenly when you are a mum, you stay home to look after the kids and the family, and presto you are suddenly the person who loves housework. Have you noticed that no one else helps and it is just YOU! I have, and it is rather annoying.
Women and mothers do want to do other things other than housework or being a slave to others needs! I know this is a big rave and I have my angry pants on today about it. I am just over being seen as the housekeeper.
How much money have I saved the household? I am sure thousands! I have twins and putting two kids in care would have not been cheap. Getting a job in the city would require hiring a nanny so again another cost.
I’m sure if the roles were reversed, men would not take it and not want to be seen as the housework slave. I know there are some stay at home dads and they do a brilliant job and hope they are not in the same boat about the assumption that they suddenly just love and adore housework.
JUST BECAUSE I AM A MOTHER DOES NOT MEAN THAT I LOVE HOUSEWORK! I have other things that I want to achieve during the day and housework is important and needs to get done but it is not what I live to do!
Does your partner help with the housework? Is it just up to you? Have you got a schedule to get it all done? Do you find that now that you are mummy/mommy that you are seen as someone that is supposed to love and like housework?
I need to earn more money so that I can hire a housekeeper. If I did have a housekeeper this would make everyone happy. I would have more time, the family would have things neat and tidy and I would not be racing around doing housework. Pity there is no housework fairy.
Washing up again! Why can’t this be done by a robot? Image courtesy of Stuart Miles at FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Do you feel that you are not yourself? Do you have moments that you just feel like you are going through the motions and are just mummy and not you! Well I have those moments and it has been happening more and more lately.
The house is a mess, hubby is not happy, I am not happy about it all. However I only have certain amount of hours while kids are at pre-school to get it all done. If I need to go to the shops or stop off somewhere the hours are less for time at home.
Just to give you an example, the first week of the kids being back at pre-school after holidays, I managed to tidy some parts and do some food shopping, go to the post office and get some laundry done and put away, I know I was pleased. However I still need to give all rooms a full once over and need to go through the kids toys to remove broken toys, toys that are too young now and give to charity, and remove things that are not played with anymore. We don’t have a lot of space and need to reduce what we have; also the kids are soon to have a birthday and then soon there will be Christmas so need to create room for new things to enter our lives.
I do understand that most of the house is my responsibility but when is it seen that this is what I do or like to enjoy on my only waking hours by myself? Why is it that at some point being a stay at home mummy you are viewed that you love or at least like housework? I will let you in on a secret, I have never liked housework ever! I hate housework and do have other things I want to achieve while I am kid free. Do you want to do be doing other things other than running around like a mad woman cleaning and organising? The plan is to have the house more organised so it allows me more time for me, whether it be for nothing, sewing, or just blogging.
Why can’t I have a self-cleaning house? They have self-cleaning windows so this is not a great stretch. Maybe all things will be programmed with a memory and then automatically be returned to their rightful place in the house. In this ideal world there would be no need to tidy up it would all be automatically organised for you. Now that is my ideal, what do you think? Wonder when technology could catch up and have this happen….I don’t see it in my future maybe the kid’s future?
Do you do the majority of housework in the house? Is it hard on you and just expected? Does your partner notice the changes that you have made in the house or the things that you have done? Is your input appreciated? Would you like a self-cleaning house, I know I would. Send in your comments.
Some people need to work to keep the house and their way of life, and these mothers would very much like to spend more time with their young children. Understand and that is hard as well. I am in the other situation, where I would love to work a bit part time but it is hard to impossible.
We are lucky that I can stay home with the kids; however more money would be a great thing at the moment, as we like a lot of people are in financial stress. It is hard to work, due to living further out from the city, having no family to help and the costs of childcare. If I was to get a job, it might prove difficult to keep as what do I do during school holidays or if the kids or one gets sick? Currently I need to do something at home that fits in with my current situation as a stay at home mother to the twins.
The girls and I a few years ago now. We were at Melrose Park to see a man jump out of plane for the fly over. This was on the 25th of May 2013.
Not only have I caught myself drooling over jobs, it makes me miss the whole idea of work. Currently the workplace would be an escape and a way to have my individually noticed, skills respected and being taken for more than just a wife and mother. I am sure that others feel the same way; however I know my time will come, but there are times I am frustrated and feel annoyed about not doing more for us and especially me.
People must think being a stay at home mother is all relaxing and having fun with the kids. Yes there is a bit of that, but it is a really hard job. This is a job that you don’t get time out, help, sick days, or holidays. It makes me think that all my old jobs were dead easy now.
In the article by Jessica Irvine, Ann Rommey the wife of presidential candidate Mitt Rommey, opened a twitter account to answer critics about her choice to stay at home to look after their children. Do you feel that you are always justifying your choice as a stay at home mother? I don’t care it is what we have done and it is working for us. If I decided to go to work, it would break us even more financially, as what do I do with the kids? How do I find the money to pay for their care? Who will pick them up and look after them after school? It boils down to what is the better option for your family. No one else needs to enter the debate.
It is sad that the value we have on women is more for paid work compared to raising the next generation. Why is the female of the species belittled for doing what works for her family? In my instance we would have to find money so that I could work. Why would you do it if the money you earn is not going to pay for everything? Cheaper and better off to stay at home and care for the kids.
In the article it states that men traditionally have earned more than women, and this is in my view still happens. I for one have more qualifications than my husband but did not earn as much as him in the corporate world. It made sense for us to keep the higher salary earner in the workforce. However that said, I am hoping that my finished master’s degree in project management will help me get the next job with of course a decent wage. Some women do out earn men, and I hope that one day that will be me. However no matter what way it goes, I think the higher wage earner is the better choice. Just my opinion, but of course you can both work which is great too.
What are your thoughts on the debate of SAHM (Stay At Home Mothers) or Working Mother? Why are we still having this discussion? I don’t see the need to worry, it is not my business what you or your family do, and it is up to you. You will work it out, not me or the media. Send in your comments.
Some people need to work to keep the house and their way of life, and these mothers would very much like to spend more time with their young children. Understand and that is hard as well. I am in the other situation, where I would love to work a bit part time but it is hard to impossible.
We are lucky that I can stay home with the kids; however more money would be a great thing at the moment, as we like a lot of people are in financial stress. It is hard to work, due to living further out from the city, having no family to help and the costs of childcare. If I was to get a job, it might prove difficult to keep as what do I do during school holidays or if the kids or one gets sick? Currently I need to do something at home that fits in with my current situation as a stay at home mother to the twins.
Not only have I caught myself drooling over jobs, it makes me miss the whole idea of work. Currently the workplace would be an escape and a way to have my individually noticed, skills respected and being taken for more than just a wife and mother. I am sure that others feel the same way; however I know my time will come, but there are times I am frustrated and feel annoyed about not doing more for us and especially me.
People must think being a stay at home mother is all relaxing and having fun with the kids. Yes there is a bit of that, but it is a really hard job. This is a job that you don’t get time out, help, sick days, or holidays. It makes me think that all my old jobs were dead easy now.
In the article by Jessica Irvine, Ann Rommey the wife of presidential candidate Mitt Rommey, opened a twitter account to answer critics about her choice to stay at home to look after their children. Do you feel that you are always justifying your choice as a stay at home mother? I don’t care it is what we have done and it is working for us. If I decided to go to work, it would break us even more financially, as what do I do with the kids? How do I find the money to pay for their care? Who will pick them up and look after them after school? It boils down to what is the better option for your family. No one else needs to enter the debate.
It is sad that the value we have on women is more for paid work compared to raising the next generation. Why is the female of the species belittled for doing what works for her family? In my instance we would have to find money so that I could work. Why would you do it if the money you earn is not going to pay for everything? Cheaper and better off to stay at home and care for the kids.
In the article it states that men traditionally have earned more than women, and this is in my view still happens. I for one have more qualifications than my husband but did not earn as much as him in the corporate world. It made sense for us to keep the higher salary earner in the workforce. However that said, I am hoping that my finished master’s degree in project management will help me get the next job with of course a decent wage. Some women do out earn men, and I hope that one day that will be me. However no matter what way it goes, I think the higher wage earner is the better choice. Just my opinion, but of course you can both work which is great too.
What are your thoughts on the debate of SAHM (Stay At Home Mothers) or Working Mother? Why are we still having this discussion? I don’t see the need to worry, it is not my business what you or your family do, and it is up to you. You will work it out, not me or the media. Send in your comments.
