Do you feel that you are not yourself? Do you have moments that you just feel like you are going through the motions and are just mummy and not you! Well I have those moments and it has been happening more and more lately.
The house is a mess, hubby is not happy, I am not happy about it all. However I only have certain amount of hours while kids are at pre-school to get it all done. If I need to go to the shops or stop off somewhere the hours are less for time at home.
Just to give you an example, the first week of the kids being back at pre-school after holidays, I managed to tidy some parts and do some food shopping, go to the post office and get some laundry done and put away, I know I was pleased. However I still need to give all rooms a full once over and need to go through the kids toys to remove broken toys, toys that are too young now and give to charity, and remove things that are not played with anymore. We don’t have a lot of space and need to reduce what we have; also the kids are soon to have a birthday and then soon there will be Christmas so need to create room for new things to enter our lives.
I do understand that most of the house is my responsibility but when is it seen that this is what I do or like to enjoy on my only waking hours by myself? Why is it that at some point being a stay at home mummy you are viewed that you love or at least like housework? I will let you in on a secret, I have never liked housework ever! I hate housework and do have other things I want to achieve while I am kid free. Do you want to do be doing other things other than running around like a mad woman cleaning and organising? The plan is to have the house more organised so it allows me more time for me, whether it be for nothing, sewing, or just blogging.
Why can’t I have a self-cleaning house? They have self-cleaning windows so this is not a great stretch. Maybe all things will be programmed with a memory and then automatically be returned to their rightful place in the house. In this ideal world there would be no need to tidy up it would all be automatically organised for you. Now that is my ideal, what do you think? Wonder when technology could catch up and have this happen….I don’t see it in my future maybe the kid’s future?
Do you do the majority of housework in the house? Is it hard on you and just expected? Does your partner notice the changes that you have made in the house or the things that you have done? Is your input appreciated? Would you like a self-cleaning house, I know I would. Send in your comments.
Lizzy AllanAugust 25, 2013
I also hate housework, Suzanne! In fact, I loathe it with a passion. My baby doesn’t have proper long sleeps during the day either; she just ‘cat naps’ which only just gives me enough time to put a load of washing on, or peg one out, or take one off the line before she wakes up again. For some reason, when my partner is home for the day, she sleeps more, so he’s convinced that she does that always and that I just sit around doing nothing all day while she sleeps!! It doesn’t help that his own mother has a spotless house and genuinely seems to be one of those rare breed who LOVES cleaning! A self-cleaning house would be the answer to my prayers!! 🙂
SuzanneAugust 25, 2013
I have thought maybe the hypnosis that I posted about before would help, it might make me want to get it all done. Don’t get me wrong, I love a neat house and like it to be tidy. I just hate interruptions and it is harder when sick to get anything done. Maybe I am missing a cleaning gene? Some people that have spotless houses and more kids I just don’t understand how they do it. Thanks Lizzy, glad I am not the only one.
Mama CarmodyAugust 27, 2013
I have always done the majority of the housework. My husband doesn’t like clutter but like you said, when everything is said and done it is VERY hard to keep up with everything. My husband has been laid off for a while and he really hasn’t helped with the upkeep of the house and I work full time. The nice thing is that he doesn’t complain about he clutter anymore since he isn’t helping take care of it. I would still be happier if I could keep up. I believe a self cleaning house would be wonderful!
SuzanneAugust 27, 2013
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a self cleaning house! It would make me so happy. I’m sure if we had one we would have heaps more time to do fun things, or at least not a slave to cleaning. I still don’t get why housework is not seen as a job for all not just for one. Hope it all works out and you have a tidy place soon. Suzanne
BMMAugust 27, 2013
Hi there. Like the rest of you, I HATE housework with a passion. The good news is that I came across a lady by the name of Francis Gabe who has actually invented a self cleaning house. I would love to know how she did it and see if it is possible for her invention to be used for ALL houses now. Why her invention has yet to be utilised yet, I don’t know. But hope is there as a prototype of such a house has been invented!