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Mothers Are Not Doormats!

I’m not feeling the love today.

Or actually any other day for that matter.

Today is the day before Mother’s Day and it has been a shit show. In actual fact total crazy chaos at many points throughout the day.

I have had my head in my hands, been in tears and just lost for why my three offspring are acting like beasts. Yes, they are just plain horrible today, and unfortunately on many other occasions.

I am angry and annoyed at everyone’s horrible behaviour – could not find a picture of a mum but this conveys my feelings

I wonder what led to this. Is it me? I do hope not. I have tried so hard to instil order, tell them to be nice and explain that they need to help others. However, no matter how hard I try I am constantly saying:

  • “Just help others”
  • “Help please!”
  • “Do as you are told”
  • “Why is this still not done, I told you hours ago to pick this up”
  • “If you did it the first time it would be done now”
  • “If you actually tidied up it would be done and then you could do something for yourself. Instead, you decide to take a whole day and argue about everything and still do nothing.”

Some have said that the older two are just hormonal…well yes that might be the case but it is not an excuse for not helping and being downright horrible all the time. If I acted the way they are when I was the same age I wouldn’t have been let out of my room and of course not allowed dinner either.

As you can imagine I have had enough and at many points throughout the day I have had fantasies about having a shower, getting dressed and driving somewhere and just doing something for myself (Without telling them this is what I am doing). I do think that Mother’s Day might not be any better. I can hope but it brings me back to the main issue I have with being a mother:

You should not be celebrated and helped on one day alone. You need help and the niceness to be everyday of the year. People need to listen to you, help and assist, and be pleasant to boot. No arguing about having to pick something up from a messy room that is not yours!

I am not the servant.

I am not a slave.

I am a person that actually wants to do more with my life than to keep on telling people to help and what to do. I am sick of the arguments, fights and who does what and also why they cannot due to the fact that they did it before. Geez if this was only a reason for me to not help.

So according to my kids, I can get out of the following as I have done it all before and it is not my job!

  • Doing the laundry
  • Cleaning up the rooms
  • Folding and putting away the laundry
  • Cooking
  • Reminding people of events and things that are important
  • Shopping for food and other essentials
  • Buying gifts and posting them to people (as I am the one that does this for everyone in this family)
  • Caring for others – maybe someone else can step up while I have a good break
  • Probably loads more points but I cannot think of them at the moment – I will claim that due to me being an overworked mum I can name other points later.

In the current climate, I feel that if I say or do something it gets ignored. I tell someone to do something and it does not happen. I ask for help and it doesn’t happen.

God forbid I have a horrible accident and bleeding out and the kids argue whose turn it is to call the ambulance. I think I would die on my floor if that was the case.

The girls told me one of their friend’s mums just left for a four-day camping trip during the last school holidays. They told me that this mum hadn’t told the kid that they were going on holiday alone, however, I would think that this woman told her partner and all was good. She decided she needed a break alone and went for it. Maybe I need to do this.

I am thinking of declining any family-forced outing tomorrow and would love to take off and do my own thing for Mother’s Day. I need to get some jeans and a nice trip to the shops, a quiet lunch on my own would be rather relaxing.

Are you feeling the same way about Mother’s Day? Or are you just wanting people to stop ignoring you and appreciate you and what you do for them? I believe that some ignoring others and not giving others what they want might wake them up to their silly behaviour. I am exhausted and so over the rudeness.

Oh, and one thing that fucking annoyed me so much was the fact that one of the oldest cannot hang out the clothes properly. She just dumped clothes and other items on the line without opening them up, so shirts were folded over themselves with sleeves still inside the shirt, also jumpers were folded over and just lumped on the line, expecting them to dry was just ridiculous! I ended up redoing it all. You would think they would get it by now, I have told them over a million times. I believe they are doing this on purpose so they don’t have to help! Why can’t they do anything I ask???? Also, why is it a shit job that needs to be redone so, in reality, there is no point asking for help in the first place!

What about you? I think booking that holiday alone is a good idea. I will look into this as a priority. Now, where to go that will not cost the earth is the next question.

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Frazzled

Lately, I have felt frazzled. On edge, tired, annoyed, exhausted, overworked, too much to do, waiting for something to happen and then nothing does, upset, worried about money, worried full stop about everything, unable to do things I had planned, sad that I had to cancel plans that I was looking forward to and a lot of other things that I find I cannot name.

I think all these feelings have stemmed from the COVID Pandemic.  As well lockdowns making sure that we are all stuck in a small house and the outcome means that there is no time for anything that I wish to do, or the space to do it, or the money to do it and when I might finally have time I am looking after kids and that means I cannot do my thing at all anyway, so I don’t bother. Yes, no time for me at all! 

Sometimes I feel rather sad, miserable, and downright depressed. Sometimes I am feeling happy and upbeat, and then most of the time I am feeling downtrodden and ordinary. 

I am getting up and doing what feels like five million jobs. I do a week’s work, and then do more work at night, to then have children argue with me about just helping around the house.

Normally I keep myself busy but for the last two years, I feel like I have been running a marathon non-stop and not getting a break. 

Oh, what would I give for an all-expenses trip to a beach somewhere? On this beach, I would have a cocktail in my hand, and I would just be lying on the beach resting. Oh, there is that word, resting….

I have not had much of that lately. The good old downtime to rest. God knows when I have really rested. When I am resting, I am worrying about all the things that are yet to be done. 

My weekends consist of being with kids and attempting to get a very messy house for the week ahead, and of course that comes with a tonne of clothes to wash, fold and ask that people put away, but they get added to the bedroom floor and then tossed around, thrown, and of course stomped on to then need washing again. 

Geez…. Why can’t someone just do as I ask the first time!!!!!! Put the clothes away. Pick up the mess on the floor! C’mon you say, and all you get is yelling, moaning and doors being slammed in your face. So of course, you give up as all you wish to do is to rest and have a quiet house for a change, however that never happens. 

Not sure if being frazzled is a medical term or a condition. Maybe it is a direct outcome of the COVID lockdowns and aftermath it has caused. 

This is quite accurate.

You might have thought that it is all getting better in the world. Well, I thought so too. However, my car was recently stolen, driven terribly that it was practically falling apart and then set on fire. Yes, burnt everything down to the ground. If it hadn’t been for the weeks of non-stop rain the stupid horrible beasts and dickheads that took my car could have caused another bushfire. Yes, it was dumped and set on fire in the middle of the national park…. not smart but these are the idiots that steal cars so I guess they don’t think about that type of thing. 

I bought the car before the four-month lockdown and have hardly driven it. It seems rather sad but also very ironic, that it is now gone. I did think that I caused the lockdown with my car purchase.



I am still very miserable about the loss of my car. I miss it. My car gave me independence, it allowed me to do whatever I wanted, and now it is gone. I have been fortunate to have good insurance so now I need to find a replacement.  I just now need to do all the research I did the first time with my car that is no longer here anymore. Currently, I do have an idea of what I want but it is a bit out of reach now, and yes, another thing to be annoyed about!

Also, a new COVID variant making infections increase is not a good sign of what is to come. I do hope that we don’t have another lengthy lockdown. I could not handle work and home-schooling again. The only solution for this I believe is to lock things down again but personally, I don’t want that to happen either if we have too many more I wonder what the solution will be other than a lockdown?  

Let’s just hope that we will still be able to travel in our state as the kids and I are really looking forward to visiting their Grandma and Grandad and also the beach. No offence to my in-laws but the kids, especially the youngest is hanging for the beach (they are excited to see their grandparents but the beach is the highlight at the moment) and I am right there with them. I think we need it after being cooped up not being able to travel.

My fix for feeling frazzled is a holiday (It would be nice to have a little holiday on my own as that would allow for less frazzle). A holiday where I can rest, not worry, just be and finally relax. However, this holiday is coming soon, it is still a while away yet and one that will be greatly welcomed. 

I am sure I am not the only one feeling frazzled this year. Have you been feeling all mixed up lately? Is it a feeling of being frazzled and on edge? I feel like this year has just piled more terrible things on top of each other that you just shrug your shoulders and say, of course, yes it makes sense that would happen. 

After I am done with work, I need to really focus on getting organised for Christmas. I have the gifts but need to wrap them and loads more to be all good to go for Christmas Day.  I just want to be finally done for a bit and put my feet up for a bit longer than 5 minutes, I am sure you know what I mean.

So, as you can see 2021 has been a HUGE year, and I am sure you are in a similar situation. It would be nice to have a bit more luck in 2022 and for the car and holiday gods to smile on me in 2022. 

I’ve now put my out of office on and I am officially on holiday! Let the relaxing begin.

Let me know how you are going? Have you been feeling frazzled too? 

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Is It Pandemic Fatigue?

I don’t know about you but I am exhausted.

I feel like I am running on fumes.

If you really want to know how tired I am, all my cells need a 6-month nap to be able to replicate again, that’s how tired I am!

A very true picture of me needing sleep

I blame the constant stress of the COVID pandemic. The current climate has meant that I feel always on edge, wearing so many hats that it is not possible to do everything for all roles in one day and at the end of each day I feel like I have run a marathon, although I haven’t done any strenuous exercise. I also feel like I have achieved NOTHING!

I am mentally spent. I am running on empty and in desperate need of a break. I find that I am at my wit’s end.

With week 16 (starting tomorrow) and the new freedoms, we are allowed due to the higher rate of vaccinations, I am now able to go to a shop and buy something. I am now able to go to a cafe and eat, and being able to visit friends and family is just an amazing thing after four months of not being able to leave my LGA (local government area/council).

Monday the 18th of October my little boy returns to his Kindergarten class with his teacher. He is very excited and has really missed his teacher and his classmates. On the 25th of October, my twins return to grade 7 for the last few weeks of the year. One of the girls is super excited and the other is not keen as she has enjoyed working from home. Mummy and Daddy are very happy to have all kids back at school soon and we hope that all three kids really enjoy seeing their friends, teachers and getting more out of their school work with finally learning with face to face lessons again.

Gift Baskets and Hampers Delivered



There is light at the end of the tunnel and having kids back at school will make the house mine again for a while. Although the time that is mine I will be working so busy on other things, the house will be nice and quiet for a change.

I am finding it tough as we navigate again through the end of this long lockdown and find that I just want to fall in a heap and not get up for a while. This cannot happen as I need to solider on and keep working and plodding along. I need to work, I need to keep going for the family and all the things I do to keep the house, kids and life going.

Oh, how I wish I could travel somewhere to rest. Somewhere warm that will pamper me and let me rest. It would be nice to have a fancy resort but currently, the only thing that I am drooling over is a beach, sunshine and being in a room that will allow me to have time alone and of course a place that has room service so I don’t have to think about anything other than rest. At this point, I could be at the local hotel and never leave my room, an easy holiday!

Lately, I have had a million and one ideas about things I would love to be working on, however, my body and mind are not in sync. I find that I am either so tired I cannot keep my eyes open, or I am not thinking straight and cannot do justice to my ideas and thoughts. So instead of doing, I have prioritised sleep and rest as I believe that my body is saying that this is needed.

Below is what I would love to do while on holiday…yes not an actual picture of me.

This not doing is also making me very frustrated and annoyed. I see all these people getting so much done during lockdown and I am just trying to get out of it with everyone in one piece so to speak.

Maybe it is the pandemic that is giving me brain fog? Maybe it is the stress of the unknown and the financial crises that we have faced during COVID? I like many of you have been negatively impacted by COVID. We have been lucky to remain well but we have suffered terribly financially. We were very close to losing everything…yes everything we have worked over 20 years to build!


I know that we have been lucky in some respects and I thank my stars that I have a job that allows remote working and hubby got a job in July that has also been happy for him to work from home. I have been focusing on what I am grateful for, my house, health of family, jobs, being with my children, and so much more. I know others are not that lucky and I am very grateful for what we have.

What I would love to be doing now

It feels silly saying that I feel so out of sorts all the time. I feel silly thinking that I am on edge and worried about things all the time. I know it really isn’t silly, but I think that people might think it is silly because I should be over it by now. I should be adult enough to be on top of things.

In actual fact, I just want to stop being an adult for a while. What about you?

Having things taken away from you is tough; Your job, maybe your house, not being able to travel, not knowing when things will change, what is the point of making any plans when they all get cancelled and so on!


I suppose living for years with constant stress isn’t good for you at all. I feel for all the people working hard to make sure they pay their rent/mortgage, keep food in the bellies of their families and the lights on. It is a hard slog and one that makes you super super exhausted. All this chaos also means that you are not functioning as your best self.

So I as I write this I am feeling over it all. I am cver all the crazy with kids at home. Over asking for kids to help and get attitude and arguments back, over having to be the teacher at home, over being the one policing everything, over having to be working full time, over not having time alone, over not being able to get to do anything I want to do, over not being able to travel, over having to catch up on bills due to a health crisis that was and is out of my control, over everything! Basically, I just want to be left alone for a while and for the house to be quiet for a decent period so that I can think.

However the quiet in the house and being left alone will not happen for another 18 or more years as I have children and one that is very young. I can live in hope though.

One other stress is what to do about Christmas, yes it is fast approaching and I have not organised anything at all. Have you got things sorted for Christmas? Or are you in a bit of a panic also about it? I do hope that I can work some miracles and find some things for all 3 kids that they will like, and that won’t break the bank. Send suggestions if you have them.

Tips to help you beat pandemic fatigue from NSW Health:

“Practice mindfulness: be in the moment and don’t dwell on problems or negative news of the day.

Take one step at a time: Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and allow yourself to take a break if you need it. Eat well: stay alert with a healthy balanced diet. Forego unhealthy snacks and temptations.

Stay energised: do regular exercise that you enjoy. This is a great way to clear your mind and boost your energy levels.

Rest: switch off from mobile devices or computers prior to going to bed. Give yourself time to relax and de-stress from the day to ensure you get a good night’s sleep.”
(https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/Infectious/covid-19/update/Pages/pandemic-fatigue.aspx)

How are you faring with the end of lockdown and many restrictions ending? Let me know how you are feeling?

Maybe once all kids are back at school they will be happier? Being with their peers and being able to do things they couldn’t do before will of course make them feel better.

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