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Just Like Me

The other day one of the girls walked into the kitchen bawling her eyes out. She was so upset she could hardly tell me what the issue was. Once she calmed down a bit I finally learnt what the problem was.

I did initially think that she or her sister had hurt themselves and we might need to take a trip to the hospital. Thank goodness it wasn’t the case.

The kid who was extremely upset told me that she was very sad that Amy Pond and Rory had died. For those that are not aware of these names or characters, they are in Doctor Who. Yes my girls take after hubby and I with their love for the Doctor.

Amy Pond and Rory Williams, from Doctor Who. Image found on Pinterest.
Amy Pond and Rory Williams, from Doctor Who. Image found on Pinterest.

I tired so hard to make her feel better but she kept on saying things about Amy and Rory like they were real people…… OH gosh… what do I do now???? She is a sensitive little bunny and these things upset her. I was like her as a child.

Yes there are moments that I get frustrated at behaviour and then realise that I am exactly the same. Do you do this too?
Yes there are moments that I get frustrated at behaviour and then realise that I am exactly the same. Do you do this too?

One thing that I did say was how about we watch the next episode to see what happens….So I will do that with her to see what happens next. From memory all works out well….but she does not know that.

Although I was shocked at her attachment and upset for the characters of Doctor Who, I had to think back to what I did when I saw this episode for the first time.

I did the same thing. Yes I cry and get very upset. I do the same thing when one doctor dies and he morphs into a new person…. I get to love and like the doctor and I don’t want them to change at all…However it does change and therefore it means more upset from me and now from one of my girls.

It got me thinking about that saying “That awkward moment when you find yourself being frustrated with your child…For behaving just like you.”

I am getting annoyed that she gets upset easily…however I have completely forgotten that I do the same thing. It is major to a child if their favourite characters die in a show or a book. It is very upsetting as an adult too.

I made sure that we had cuddles and kisses and talked about it, she felt a bit better after some nice mummy cuddles.

Have you had moments that your little ones have pushed your buttons to then realise that their behaviour is exactly like yours? Let us know what happened.

 

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5 years and beyond

New Olympic Sport- Shopping with Kids

Kid upset after mucking up at the shops.
Kid upset after mucking up at the shops.

Shopping with kids should be seen as an Olympic sport. Especially when you are doing the food shopping. Oh and in a shop where kids touch expensive things! Maybe everywhere, but I just had this realisation yesterday after doing a shop at Woolworths.

Oh what an afternoon!!

Things that the kids did while at the shop:

  • Rearranged some of the shelves for products (very kind but yet annoying)
  • Ran into each other and then bumped off the shelves, and of course fell down to fall at the feet of another customer with her trolley.
  • Got into hysterical giggle fit and would not stand still or listen to me at all!
  • I must say kids don’t need to be having a giggle fit or even a hysterical giggle fit to ignore me.
  • One child was helpful to a point. She helped me get many fruit and veg. She of course was wearing her sparkly crown to the shops. While she got mushrooms and put them in the brown paper bag a lady commented, “Oh look it’s the Queen of Mushrooms!” I thought it was nice and she smiled and so did my little girl. Here is where the help ends.
  • Steering the shopping trolley while not wanting help. Yelling at me to not help them. I had to help as they were going to bump into things, people and products. A disaster all round.

So as you can see my trip to the shops yesterday was a trial and exhausting. I did not start off with a headache but ended up with a massive one.

As stated shopping with kids should be considered an Olympic Sport. What would you have to do to get a medal you ask?

To get a gold medal, this is what you need to do:

You need to be at the supermarket with 2 very hungry and naughty kids. You are tasked with getting a big shop for a family of 4 and staying sane throughout the process.  (All athletes otherwise known as parents and carers, are tasked with the same challenge for all medal levels)

Making sure that kids listen to your instructions, you remain calm and don’t raise your voice ever during this marathon challenge.

This is not an easy task, you will also have to keep a smile on your face throughout this whole experience. If you fail with any of this criteria the gold medal is lost forever, to never be in your grasp.  So to achieve a gold medal you are beyond human.

To get a silver medal, this is what you need to do:

Things that would make you get a silver would be, tantrum by kid accompanied by screams and tears. You yelling or not dealing with it well would make sure your award would be silver.

If there is more than one incident you would be a bronze medal winner.

To get a bronze medal, this is what you need to do:

If you have 2 or more meltdowns, from you or the children. You lose your cool, get angry and just get annoyed. This would also mean that you have lost the smile on your face and wish to get home as soon as possible, the kids bedtime cannot come soon enough! As you might have guessed winners of this category are counting down the hours till they can have the wine or other alcoholic drink to ease their nerves.

I must say that I was in the bronze medal category yesterday as I did lose it a bit and of course needed some nice red wine at dinner to make me feel a little better.

The elusive gold medal

The elusive gold medal

ISF (International Sporting Federation) of Shopping with Kids is wanting to demonstrate to the IOC (International Olympic Committee) that this is a genuine sport and should be included in the next Olympic Games. What do you think? Do you believe an athlete could manage to win a gold medal under the pressure from naughty unruly kids?

It would be great to watch if it was a reality, I would love to see the breakdown from the athletes. “He thought that he could do it but the kids broke him!” says the sports commentator. “She was in there with a chance, but the kids are running rings around her”, says the other sports commentator.

How do you fare at the shops when you have the kids with you? Do you feel like it is like an Olympic Sport? Send in your comments.

Shopping Trolley/Cart
Shopping Trolley/Cart
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5 years and beyond

The Library Disaster

I want that book MUMMY! Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici / FreeDigitalPhotos.net
I want that book MUMMY! Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

It is another rainy day. After my visit to the chiropractor I took kids to get a hot chocolate and I had a relaxing camomile tea.  After we finished our drinks I thought spending some time at the library reading some books would be a good idea.

My plan worked to a point and then it didn’t. What happened you ask? Well…

I told one kid that she could borrow a book and then the other wanted to borrow the one we just read. I said fine.  I had just finished “The Tale of Peter Rabbit” before. I told the kids that we had read enough and should go home to get something to eat and do other fun things.

Now here is where it gets interesting and annoying. Remember we are in a library where you need to be quiet.

I put the Peter Rabbit book back on the shelves and took the other 2 books with me. Then the world ended. Shrieks, Screams, Yelling and of course crying! Did I say yelling and screaming! Oh god it was bad! It was mortifying!

I told the twins that we already have this book at home and why borrow it when we already have it. They did not want to listen and were not doing as they were told. I also told them that they need to stop getting the book back as we don’t need to borrow it.

As they were not listening I then said we could not borrow anymore books as we already have some at home that we are yet to read, and they were acting up terribly so they were not due to get anything nice due to bad behaviour.

This of course made matters worse and then I walked out of the library with 2 banshee like creatures following me, screaming the place down.

You might think this is terrible enough. However it does not stop there. My dramatic exit was not to be the end of the story. I realised after leaving I had left the kids jackets on the floor of the kids area in the library. Yes I had to go in again and of course since it is just me with the kids, they had to come in with me again. SHIT!

They of course still carried on terribly, so I told them that they need to behave. I finally managed to get out, to the car and home. While in the car both kids were crying and upset and kept it up for a while.

Kids did not start off with such bad behaviour at the library and while we were there reading the stories there was a baby screaming the place down. I thought how rude of the parent, but understood. Then it was my turn to do the same. It was an embarrassing situation and I did the only thing anyone would have done. Left and made kids go to their room after we got home.

How has school holidays been for you? Have your kids been well behaved? Or have you got banshees at the moment? Send in your stories.

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5 years and beyond

Searching for the Magic Formula

The book that holds the magic formula. Getting kids to behave. Image courtesy of digitalart at FreeDigitalPhotos.net
The book that holds the magic formula. Getting kids to behave. Image courtesy of digitalart at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Have you found the magic formula for disciplining your kids? I wish I had. Kids have been little terrors lately and I feel it is the age and the need for more stimulation. I could be wrong but I am trying to believe this.  No one listens to mummy, kids don’t do anything they are told or asked to do and as you might imagine, Mummy is over it and exhausted!

I have tried chores, incentives, and the like and all seem not to work. I have tried making it a game and getting them to help with small things, like wiping the table. It does work to a degree then goes pear shaped. Is it the competitiveness between the kids? Is it the fact that they are so close and want to do the same thing at the same time? Maybe it is.

I do feel though that the girls now they are five are pushing boundaries and seeing where it gets them.  Mostly this pushing boundaries gets them into trouble. Time out in the corner, no TV, no story or an early bedtime.

Is is due to the fact that they are twins? Pairing up to be mischievous more? Maybe? But siblings have done the same thing, so maybe it is not just down to being twins. Having a buddy in crime is helpful for the kids but annoying for the parent.

Do you have twins? Have you found the age of four to five troublesome? The girls are getting much more confident with their climbing and are little quiet ninjas when they want to not be found out. I do find it hard not to be amazed at how clever they are, but at the same time they are getting into trouble and some of it might cause injury.

I have explained to the girls how some things are very naughty and can cause one or both of them to get hurt. We always say “We don’t want to have to take you to hospital” and the kids don’t want to go, so they start to listen.  Kids I know are rough and tumble and getting hurt here or there is part of the cause, but you don’t want it to more serious than a bump or a scratch.

Do you have issues with kids listening, paying attention and doing as you ask? If you have cracked the magic formula to make it all work, PLEASE LET ME KNOW! Send in your comments.