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4 years and beyond

Worst Mummy Ever!

Worst Mother Award
Worst Mother Award

A couple of days ago one of the girls wanted to take her handbag full with toys and many other trinkets. I explained that the teachers would make her put it in her locker and she will not be able to play with it. If she did play with it, there is a great possibility that whatever she has in this handbag she will lose or other kids will play with and of course lose. I then told her that this would upset her and the best idea was for us to keep the handbag with her toys at home so that after school she can come home and play with it.

This idea was met with anger and annoyance. I got yelled at, screamed and cried at. Not a good start to trying to get out of the house to drop the twins to pre-school. I finally managed to remove the handbag from this child and move her towards the door. However this was helped by me blocking her access back to the house and making sure to close the door so we could finally get to the car.

This in turn made her lose it like I did not know what the last angry upset was all about. She tried to bite me, scratch me and just was plain angry. I explained that I did not want her to lose her toys and it was best they stay at home and to hurry up and get into the car as we are now running late for school. She decided a temper tantrum was in order and decided to yell at the top of her lungs, “I want my toys, I want my handbag” and then the one I never expected to hear or at least when they were older. “I want you dead!”

I had her sister in her seat belt and she was just sitting there being good as she had witnessed her sister being naughty and she was the good girl and sister, and showing mummy how well she was to make sure she was in the good books. I then walked up to the offending child and said, “What did you say?” She then muttered some things that no one could understand and finally she repeated, “I want you dead!”, I then explained that I am sure she does not want me dead and I understand she is very angry however, she would be very upset if I did die. I explained that there would be no one to take care of her or her sister. She then fired back very quickly that daddy will do it and they will be fine without me.

I explained that daddy has to work to earn money to put food on the table and to pay for the house, he would have to hire a nanny or get family to come help him. She was very quick to realize that she did not like this idea. I told her that I love her very much but not the way she was acting. Has this happened to you? Your lovely little baby fires back such hateful things at you? She has since apologized and told me that she loves me.

Now it was the other ones turn. She was not listening or coming to get dressed after about 10 times of me calling her name while I was waiting in her bedroom with the clothes ready for her to get dressed. I gave up and went and got her, put her under an arm and got her to the bedroom and showed her the clothes and started getting her dressed. She screamed and told me “You are the worst mummy, I will never play with you again!”

Both girls were mucking up and not going to bed. I heard noises that I thought meant that they were out of the bedroom. I told them to get back into their room, still hearing the noise I got up and walked to their bedroom. They were in their room and I was told they were playing and it was the noise from the bedroom I had heard. I apologized to the girls and then one of them yells out, “It’s o.k mummy we still love you!” Nice to know. 🙂

I think it is just the age the twins are at, but it is a stressful time and it makes me think that maybe they are not far off being teenagers? They seem to be doing all the same things, however they are just younger. I suppose it is just different tantrums and a different age, and more stress just dealing with different worries. What are your thoughts?

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3 years and beyond

Moody Mornings

This morning kids were yelling and screaming. I entered their room to find both girls fighting over space in Julia’s bed. Last night they were both sleeping together, cuddling and sharing the same pillow. This is nice, however it creates issues. Lillian ended up taking over and leaving Julia no room. I put Julia in Lillian’s bed and a good night sleep was had, until the early morning screams this morning. Julia was most likely trying to claim back ownership of her bed, and Lillian did not want to budge. Why can’t they just sleep in their own beds!

So after we exited the bedroom and dealt with this argument I thought it might all be over, well at least for this morning. I was wrong!  Fights over toys, chairs and other things. Gosh and it is not even 9am yet. I am grateful that they are off to school today. Maybe they can burn energy there and when home they can just relax. I can live in hope. I hear you all laughing at this, yes I know it is not going to happen. 🙂

Both girls have had adequate sleep, although they are acting like they are tired. Maybe it is just a lot of activity at school and big days wear them out. Does this happen to you? I am finding we are getting more moody days and issues. Is it due to each child becoming more of an individual? Is it due to sharing things and parents all the time, this could be a part of it.

I really think both girls are trying to compete with each other, and not sharing is creating more problems. However this is all normal for their age and it is a stage that all kids and parents go through. This stage is exhausting and sometimes I wish I could just skip this stage altogether.

One site that comments on these types of behaviour is Totally Childcare, they have an article called, “Difficult Children – Moody, Disobedient, Naughty“, I think some of their points are good, see what you think.  Some articles that I have seen on the Internet suggest that there might be other issues, this might be so but not in our case.  I believe that it is down to kids not getting their way and reacting. What are your thoughts. Do you have some days that the tantrums start early?  How does this affect you as a mother? What are the magical ways that you deal with these moody and naughty issues. Send in your comments. Remember to vote for us for Best Australian Blog.

 

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3 years and beyond

Not this dinner mummy!!!

Last night’s dinner was not a success as I had hoped, although deep down I expected this. I cooked the girls chicken and vegetables with noodles. I did not have much in their bowls and thought that they might pick at the chicken and eat some noodles at the least.

The reaction was tears, screaming and yelling. “No, Yuck!”  And, “No mummy we are playing outside, we will eat later” This ended with the girls realising that there was no other choice for dinner and if they did not eat this they would go hungry.

Lillian after while caved in and had some chicken and noodles, not much but it was a good try. She got rewarded with a chocolate koala and then had milk.

Julia was not interested and very stubborn. She decided to have a temper tantrum and stayed in the kitchen yelling, screaming and crying. I thought since whatever I said was making things worse that I should just leave her to calm down. I could see her crawling on the floor and her head was poking around the corner, until I saw her face and then more tears and she did not want to look at me. I am the bad parent for making her eat the dinner and not offering her other things.

Daddy got home early and Julia went to tell him that I was not feeding her and that I was being mean to her. I did tell Julia if she just ate a bit of the dinner then she can have a treat and milk like Lillian. She refused so I refused.

After a bit of cuddle time with daddy and telling on me to daddy, she seemed willing to try again if she had the pink bowl for her food and of course not with me. So organised the pink bowl and she ate quite a lot of the chicken and I think some noodles, not sure. At least this is a good start. She then got a chocolate koala and some milk. Finally a smile out of Julia, I hugged and kissed her and told her what a good job she was doing.

It is hard being the bad parent and having the kids hate you, but if it means that they eat more food and get more variety, I suppose it is worth it.  How have you gone with temper tantrums at dinner and what has the outcome been?  Is there ways to make the tantrums end sooner than carry on? Do you know how, if so share your special secret ways with us.