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How About Mummy Gets Looked After!

I’m tired.

More like super exhausted,

and while I write this I am drooling about sleep.

Picture of me sleeping...well if I was a cat.
Picture of me sleeping…well if I was a cat.

I’ve been busy looking after everyone, doing everything and taking everyone everywhere.

Oh, and not to mention getting a cold, then the flu and now sick again.

I just want to sit and be looked after for a change; get dinner made by someone else, allow me to sleep in, maybe have others do the housework for a change.

I have been wondering for a while now, when is it my time to be looked after? Why am I the one that does everything?

I am more than a wife and a mother, I have dreams and ideas too, plus I haven’t changed who I am due to having kids. Actually, there have been THREE BIG CHANGES:  I have no money, no time and I’m always tired.

I know that being a mum doesn’t make you less of a person but lately, it feels like you get overlooked on every level.   When you are sick you still have to solider on, when you’ve hurt yourself you have to still do everything too.

Maybe it will be another 20 years before I can finally have a break? I do have young children and one is not even in school yet.

Being always on is tiring not only physically but mentally draining.

Maybe the thoughts about the lack of identity or being at other’s beck and call have surfaced more due to the school holidays…where there has been not a lot of moments to be left alone to hear myself think.

It could be that being a Stay at Home mum to three kids is now my role, however, I would like to be a mogul to my ideas.

Do you find that you’re overlooked due to being a mum? Do you find that things are expected of you and you are never asked? If so, I know how you feel.

I think this is why I’ve been researching drool-worthy holidays. A holiday that will mean mummy will get some much-needed downtime, pampering and an experience that will be fantastic for the whole family (One that means that I don’t have to make beds, cook or clean).

Let me know if you are over giving all to everyone and not getting much back? Having moody pre-teens, of course, doesn’t help.

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Cry, Cuddle and Repeat

Lately the house has been a mess. Things have been half done and never gotten back to. Why do you ask?

Well a crying baby that is the reason. He is needing cuddles, attention and of course for mummy to try and take the pain of teething away.

When the rare moment that he has slept during the day happens I try and do something, but he wakes and then the screaming and upset begins again.  This now means that I have to stop what I am doing and be with the baby.

I have decided to just give up for now. If I get the washing folded and put away that will be a miracle.

Also if the vacuuming and maybe other areas of the house get a good scrub and clean that also will be amazing indeed.

Sometimes having a shower without the baby waking up is winning. Yes small things make me feel like I have achieved greatly.

I feel like I should get some toothpicks and try and prize my eyes open. I am getting sleep and the baby is sleeping better at night and for longer, but I am on edge. I keep on thinking I hear the baby cry and of course don’t have that deep lovely sleep as I am always on call for the baby in the night. I also have showers and believe that the baby is screaming the house down when of course the place is dead quiet. I’m sure I am not the only one that does this.

Toothpicks that might be helpful in keeping my eyes open.
Toothpicks that might be helpful in keeping my eyes open.

My body is out of whack. My neck hurts and a good massage and hot bath is something that would be most welcome. Bring on the day spa experience….well I can dream can’t I.

Although he has been in pain and is out of sorts, he is still a very smiley and giggly little boy. Sometimes he does not know if he should laugh or cry when I am trying to help him with the pain of new teeth coming in.

I don’t know if it is a personality difference but the twins were not that bad when they were teething. They were in a bit of pain and discomfort but after taking the edge off with some painkillers they were right. Some cuddles, kisses and then they were off to bed and all was right. Our little boy seems to be upset all the time regardless of medication or sometimes cuddles. Is there a difference between how the sexes handle this? If you had a boy and then a girl were they different or the same when they got their first teeth?

I do really feel for him and how horribly painful it is. I am just very glad that he will not remember this experience. All I can do is to try and make him feel the pain less and to give him cuddles throughout the process. I’m not sure when he will get his first tooth but I hope it happens soon. The twins got theirs at about 4-5 months and some at 6 months.

It feels like there are few teeth wanting to make an appearance and it will be interesting to see what one happens first. I know the bottom teeth and the top ones are the teeth that generally happen first.

Have you had a week or two that whatever you plan or wish to do in the window of time you have to yourself you cannot get done? If so I feel your annoyance and I also understand that the little person is really needing you and me giving them hugs and attention at this upsetting time for them right now.

How did you get through your baby teething? Did you just give up on things around the house like I am doing? Did you have some help to get all the things done that need doing? Let us know.

Note: I am hoping that in the next few days he will settle down a bit so that will allow me to get stuck into the housework. You know when you get over it all and you clean angry. I find I get a lot done when I have this happen, especially when I need to throw out things, give items charity or just give things away.

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Helping Other Mums

Catching up on some much needed sleep. Image courtesy of tiverylucky / FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Catching up on some much needed sleep. Image courtesy of tiverylucky / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

While the kids were on school holidays, I took them to an indoor play centre. The weather was extremely windy and thought rather than sit miserably cold at a park, why not be indoors.  I also did not want to have a tree fall on me or branches fall on us.

Not many people were there and there was one mother with her three kids, one the girls age, the other about two, and one a baby. She was frazzled and just in need of some time out. I understood! Being the sole carer and having no friends or family near by is hard. I sometimes lose the plot with two kids and cannot imagine an extra at the moment. Although I do think that if I did have another baby now the twins would be super helpful. We recently visited their baby cousin who is now four months old and they were acting like big sisters. Fussing, taking care of her and making sure she had her blanket on. It was super cute.

I ended up chatting to this stressed out mum while I was at the play centre and  I helped her out. I felt for her. She did not have a lot of money and did not have her license so she relied on public transport. This is a big thing to handle when you are not feeling the best and dealing with three kids. Plus dealing with the whinging of the kids, “I’m hungry!’ and “Are we there yet!”

I helped with the baby, gave her older child some kind praise and encouraged the girls to play with her to make her included in the kids games. This allowed this mum to have some time to have a tea and put her feet up for a small window. Not a lot but a little bit helps.  I thought of this frazzled mum when I read the story about a mum who fell asleep at a play centre. Another mother stayed and looked after her child while she rested and only left the centre once this mother woke and all was okay. Very nice indeed!

This mum who slept at the play centre was extremely embarrassed and upset that she had fallen asleep. To do this, this woman must have been utterly exhausted and sleep deprived and I do understand.  This story and the lady I encountered made me think it was nice that there are people who take the time to help. I was glad that I was able to give this woman some help and kindness when she needed it, not like one woman years ago at the same centre.  I asked her to watch my kids for small moment while I go to the bathroom. I was chatting to her, my kids were playing with hers. So I thought it would not be a bad thing to ask. She gave me a filthy look and said, “What do you want me to do?” Talk about rude!

Acting like this to others is just plain horrible and not helpful. God forbid you were in jam and needed the help of another person.

I hope they help you and not ignore your plea. For those that have this horrid attitude about helping or being kind to others, I hope that karma dishes you up something delightful.

If you don’t help why should you be helped in the future. Well that is my view.

I was glad that I helped this lady out the other week, and I hope that she managed to get more of a break. Talking to her I found out that her husband works shift work and long hours and she is in a town where she knows no one. That is hard. I tried to give her some things to do or to seek out that might help her. Playgroups, Mother groups, and so on.

Have you helped another mum? Or was it just someone that needed a helping hand and not a mum? It could be anyone.

Be kind and help someone if they need it. Have a great day!