This is not a new problem but one that has annoyed me for a long time.
How about you????
Is this an issue that makes you angry?
I bet it does…. if it annoys you then I want you to get behind my movement to Bring The Drawstring Back!
As you might have guessed it really frustrates me and makes me very annoyed.
Pants and shorts that look like they have the drawstring cord but it is an illusion. Yep all fake, nothing works. Cord and string just for show.
In fact, they just have a few bits of cord hanging to allow you to tie in a knot and not an actual bow, and due to no actual drawstring being in the waist of the pants or shorts there is no ability to pull them tighter.
You might not think this is a major issue but it is, especially when you have super skinny kids that have no waists and need everything to be tighten or taken in.
It could be a conspiracy against all people that wish to adjust their pants and not show their bums or undies.
The twins were tiny from the word go and of course have been small with everything and it is hard to get them anything that fits without getting a smaller size to ensure it actually fits around their waist. However, due to the fact that they are growing, I need the length but the waist size for bigger sizes seem to get enormous and therefore falls off my skinny little people.
When Alexander was born he was 1.2kgs bigger than one of the girls, now this is significant but he is still the same as his sisters. Being a good size for a newborn hasn’t helped the fact that he is going to be a skinny minny like his sisters.
He has an itty bitty waist and needs to have outfits with an adjustable waist or tighter elastic or at the very least a drawstring that is there and actually works.
I’m sure I’m not the only one that is over the fake drawstring phenomenon.
Why are manufacturers doing this?
From a customer perspective, it is horrible. You buy a pair of pants and they cannot be altered to fit you…. stupid actually!
From the seller’s position, having drawstrings mean more time to make each item and therefore each item will cost more. I’m sure they are still super cheap to make in a Chinese factory and sell for a huge profit.
Personally, I hate having no drawstrings on pants. Especially for kids, and on my PJ”s too! (I seem to have a whole bunch of pajama pants that are just falling off me and yes you guessed it, no drawstring!)
I think we should email, phone and tell all stores to put back the drawstring! Will you stand with me?
#bringbackthedrawstring
I did try and create a change.org petition however I couldn’t due to not knowing who to list as the person, organisation, or group that can make a decision about my petition.
Not having drawstrings is an issue that affects many shops and it is not down to one. Therefore this area of the form was left blank and I couldn’t create an online petition.
Note: I have had to change my pajama pants I was wearing during writing this as they are constantly falling down, yes its a look I just don’t want. I could magically fix all pants that do this, but why would you want to? Why can’t I just buy pants that have a usable and working drawstring?
The issue is real and affects millions of people. Tell the clothing stores you shop at that they need to bring back the drawstring!
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Food is one of life’s pleasures- perhaps subconsciously to us, food enlightens all our senses to create that pleasure.
You celebrate with food.
Families come together over the dining room table- this social experience is a vital part of our wellbeing.
Friends go out to enjoy meals at new and interesting restaurants/cafes.
Food is also super important for your health. Good quality food is your tool to wellbeing.
It is recommended that you consume a wide variety of fruits and vegetables daily – eating the rainbow is ideal. By this, all colours should make an appearance on your plate.
This passion and enjoyment that food brings does not go away with age.
The Maggie Beer Foundation “was established in 2014 to improve the food experiences for older Australians, particularly those living within aged care homes. In fellowship with her Board of industry leaders, professors and health advisors, Maggie has made it her personal mission to link the latest research of how the food we eat can impact brain health and general wellbeing, with her innate knowledge of what good food can do for everyone’s emotional wellbeing – a truly nourishing mix, so much greater than the sum of its parts.”
How Can You Help?
Donations – Giving money to help the cause is a great way to help.
Corporate Support – If you are a business/corporation you can support The Maggie Beer Foundation.Businesses can support a program or project, become involved with progressing one of our strategic priorities and implement the Maggie Beer Foundation “Appetite for Life” program in an aged care home.
Advocacy – The main focus of The Maggie Beer Foundation is “radically change food practices in aged care, to improve the emotional wellbeing of each and every person.”To make a change, government and aged care facilities need to be on board. It’s a huge job and one that can be done with everyone helping.
Maggie Beer Foundation – Creating An Appetite For Life
You no doubt know someone elderly or in an aged care setting, food is one major thing they have to look forward to in their day. We too are ageing and how nice would it be to have our daily food pleasures available to us as we endure our elder years?
Together let’s get behind Maggie Beer’s mission to improve the food experience in aged care.
“Breakfast is served! “Super” Banana Porridge – this contains approximately 25% more energy and a third more fibre than regular porridge just cooked with milk!” Image from The Maggie Beer Facebook Page
Improving food in aged care facilities will help everyone and one day possibly you. I think that when a relative ends up in aged care it doesn’t dawn on you that one day this could be you.
Food is a vital part of living and one that doesn’t disappear with age, making meals interesting, tasty and healthy is important. Also, it is one thing that can be changed with a lot of support.
Be the change and help The Maggie Beer Foundation get more awareness around food in aged care facilities.
Share your stories of what is working, any changes that you have made that has had a positive impact on residents whether they are living at home or in a supported care environment.
Disclaimer: I love what Maggie Beer’s Foundation is doing for aged care and older Australians. I am a firm believer as we age we should be treated well. Aged care homes or institutions need to ensure that their food is delicious, healthy and interesting. Good food means good health and a better quality of life.
Everyone at some point will come into contact with an aged care home.
You might visit your grandparents, have to put your parents into one, your partner might need some assistance, or eventually, you will need one.
This affects us all.If we all get behind this great mission to ensure that food in all aged care facilities is better, then we would have helped everyone that will need any aged care facilities nationwide. Wouldn’t this be great?
“Food is nutrition not just for the body, but also for the soul. It’s what fires our appetite for life, no matter what age.” Maggie Beer.
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Happy Birthday to us, Happy birthday to the blog, Happy Birthday.... we are turning 10 this year!
This year the blog is turning ten.
What a major milestone it is to be blogging for 10 years!
Happy Birthday to us, Happy birthday to the blog, Happy Birthday…. we are turning 10 this year!
It really doesn’t feel like it has been ten years. Maybe it is all the things that kept me busy in the nearly ten years since having my first children (I did think that I would always say first child but in my case its first children).
The blog was started just after the twins were born and the girls are soon to be ten in September. The twins are super excited to be double digits soon.
To celebrate this amazing milestone I am giving away prizes to a valued and cherished reader each month.
I value all of you that have helped create such an awesome community and for following the blog for all these years.
Make sure to follow the blog, subscribe to the newsletter on the link below (I email my readers about giveaways, promotions and interesting news), and of course, follow us on our social media sites to not miss out on these amazing competitions and much more!
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A HUGE thanks to all that have followed the blog and for helping make it such a great place to be.
2018 is going to be awesome and there are so many wonderful things in store.
Check out my Q & A article, it was so that the lovely Kiddipedia readers can get to know me.
I know many of you might already know some of these things that I mentioned in this post, but some might not. Take a read and learn more about me and the blog.
Each month I will be posting a new article on the Kiddipedia website. I hope you pop over to read my new articles.
While you are there, please take the time to look at all the wonderful resources that this great parenting resource offers.
Kiddipedia is very thrilled to announce our partnership with Mummy to Twins Plus One.
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What a great thing to get in the mail, it is so lovely to be recognised for your work. It put a HUGE smile on my face.
Top 20 Mummy Blogger
It is is lovely to be on this list as there are a number of other blogs that I love and admire as well. Some of them are:
Grace from With Some Grace, Kat from the Organised Housewife, Nicole from Planning with Kids, Maxabella from Maxabella Loves, Kelly from Be a Fun Mum, Essentially Jess, Easy Peasy Kids, Kid Bucket List, and Life Love and Hiccups.
I have met Grace, Kat, Nicole and Kelly. So it is good to be again in good company with them in this list, as well as the other fab bloggers.
When have you been surprised by some good news? Was it gift? An award or winning something?
Maybe this is the start of good things to come? I hope so.
I am not to concerned about winning awards, although it is nice to be recognised, I am just striving for a greater website that grows and helps the community.
It would be nice to win prizes and to get more acclaim. I know comes in time and with more people knowing what I am doing.
I hope you have had a good start to May so far. May for me is a huge month filled with birthdays, Mother’s Day, Wedding Anniversary, more family birthdays and possibly other things that I have forgotten or left off the list.
A HUGE thank you to those who work at Mr Promo Code and added my website to this great list of top 20 mummy bloggers.
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The YEAR OF THE ROOSTER is going to be wonderful for all! Well I hope so. Don’t you.
What do you do to celebrate Chinese New Year? I like to celebrate with dumplings either home made or purchased. Maybe if we are lucky we go out to a lovely restaurant for some yummy Chinese food. Whatever you decide to do I hope you have a lovely celebration.
Gong Xi Fa Cai to you all! I hope that the year of the Rooster is good for you, it is meant to be an excellent year for me, and I’m keen to get working on some huge plans soon. Happy Chinese New Year!
Our family loves to celebrate Chinese New Year. I’m an ox, hubby is a monkey, the twins are rats and little Alexander is a sheep/goat. I’m meant to have an excellent year in the year of the rooster and I hope that this is true.
Do you like to look at the Chinese horoscopes? I do. If you are like me and want to figure out what is going to happen this year check out the links below:
The Chinese Zodiac has a breakdown for each sign and how they will fare in 2017
Chinese Fortune Calendar has a detailed breakdown of all signs and what will be happening in 2017
Make yummy San Choy Bau and celebrate Chinese New Year!
If you would like kids to get involved and learn more about Chinese New Year I have some great links below:
Education.com has some great free worksheets and kids can make a Year of the Rooster Mask. They also have some colouring in sheets to download
Crayola has colouring pages that you can print out or colour online. Colour in the rooster to celebrate the new year.
Activity Village in the UK has colouring pages, crafts and so much more available for kids. Download and enjoy.
Making mango custard
Try your hand at making your own dumplings. I made some the other year and they were so yummy. I’m going to do some more this year with a difference and will post when complete. Check out my detailed post about what I did to create a Chinese feast to celebrate Chinese New Year. Note this is from a previous year so forget the mentions of the old signs.
Help create a better future for some of Australia's poorest kids - donate to the Smith Family today. Help kids purchase school items.
Have you purchased all the items your kids need to start school soon? I did and boy was it expensive, and also stressful shopping with two very energetic kids (not to mention the baby as well).
Making sure you can have all the items that the school desires you to have for your kids to start school is great if you have the money, but give a thought for families that might not. They might be struggling and some purchases might not be able to be made. Therefore these kids miss out and start out the school year behind the other kids. This disadvantage can really impact a child’s learning, confidence and much more.
Did You Know?
“There are 638,000 Australian children whose families are experiencing financial hardship and life is a daily struggle.” The Smith Family.
I would hate to think what I would do if I could not afford to get the girls their books, pens, pencils, highlighters, textas, other markers, new school shoes and much more. I of course would be grateful for the help and like the fact that my kids would not be the odd ones at their school.
Children like to be like all the others and not having things the other kids do is a real blow. It makes them different from others straight from the start.
It is sad that many families are experiencing financial hardship.
I know how tough it can get, although when we struggled we did not have kids.
We had just gotten married, come home from our honeymoon to find out that hubby was let go of his job. That left me in a job that did not pay enough to pay for everything. We were super lucky that our house payments were manageable but everything else got left due to not having funds to do anything.
Hubby and I cancelled the extras that cost us money, we bought in bulk and mainly mince and frozen vegetables. Kind relatives sent us care packages and gift cards so we could shop at Coles or Woolies At times we went without dinner and struggled to put petrol in the car. It was tough and we are able to say we survived. We were lucky. We had help from friends and family.
Help create a better future for some of Australia’s poorest kids – donate to the Smith Family today. Help kids purchase school essentials so they can be their best.
I can’t imagine how much tougher it would have been with kids as well. We did have a cat and made sure he ate well, but I do know kids and their needs are different. They would need clothes, school items, and all sorts of things. Being in dire straights due to circumstance is tough and hard.
I agree with the Smith Family when they say that, “It is absolutely crucial that we give them the support they need”. Without help families go backwards and situations can get worse.
Education and opportunity can open so many doors for kids. It can change your whole life. Change someones life today by donating to the Smith Family so they can help a family get school supplies and other educational support for their kids.
I have given today, why don’t you! Donate to the Smith Family today. See the nice thank you I received after I gave.
My donation to help families in need. I hope this helps get some school supplies and help for kids at school this year.
Disclaimer: This is not a sponsored post. I feel very strongly about all kids having a fair go and being equal. Kids need to feel supported and so do families so that they can provide the very best education for their children. Kids who are given opportunities and have the right equipment to learn with do well. Doing well at school leads to a good job and life. It helps everyone. I was also touched by the advertisements due to just purchasing all the twins school items for grade three this year. It was super expensive and I cannot imagine how it would be with little to no income to do it.
Make sure you help someone that is going through a tough time.
Give them support, help, maybe money or time or just a helping hand.
If you don’t know anyone that needs assistance I’m sure the Smith Family can help. If you donate to the Smith Family they will give the funds to the families that need it the most.
Today I tried smashed avocado for brunch, well it was more like a very late breakfast to be precise.
I usually order the standard and ordinary meal of; scrambled eggs, toast, mushrooms, tomato, and possibly some leafy greens or say a hash brown might make its way on the plate depending on my mood.
However today I read the menu and saw that smashed avocado was listed. Do I dare? Have something different than my standard breakfast when out? What happens if it was terrible?
Had to order the smashed avocado. Thanks to Bernard Salt I had to find out what all the fuss was about. It was yummy. #brunch #girlsdayout #smashedavocado
You might ask why was I tempted to try something new when I have always ordered my usual thing for years and was perfectly happy with this treat. There have been times when I have strayed from my usual order but only for something interesting or delicious sounding.
I was interested in this smashed avocado due to the recent Bernard Salt article telling youth or otherwise known as the millennials that they need to stop eating “smashed avocado with crumbled feta on five-grain toasted bread at $22 a pop and more.” Salt was saying that the $22 that they save by not eating this breakfast item would be put to good use in saving for a house deposit.
I’m not sure that saving this amount even if you spent this every day of the week would help you acquire a house in Sydney now.
Say you decided to spend $22/day/year to eat out, and this is regardless of whether you purchase smashed avocado. You could save the below amount.
365 days/year x $22.00 = $8,030/year
As the house prices in Sydney are close to 1 million dollars and if you decided to offer a 20 per cent deposit you would have to come up with $200,000 just for a deposit.
“Over the March quarter, the harbour city’s median house price dropped 1.5 per cent to $995,804, with apartments slipping 0.7 per cent to $656,166, according to Domain Group’s March House Price Report released on Thursday.Apr 21, 2016”
However, if you would like to get a unit they are a little cheaper and just shy of $700,000, so not cheap at all for a first place if you ask me! If went with the figures that were published by domain the median house price is about $995,804 so that would mean your 20 per cent deposit would be, $199,160.80 (yes I have even calculated to the 80 cents)
So, this would mean that if you spent the advertised amount of $22 according to Bernard Salt, it would take you 24.8 years, so therefore I’m rounding it up to 25 years until you would save enough money for a deposit on a $995,804 house. Sad to think that it would take you this long to save to get this far, and while this is happening I’m sure prices would go up too so you might never get the house you want.
Sydney is getting so expensive saving for a house deposit might take you 30 years.
While I was eating my smashed avocado, I was thinking about people saving for a house and missing out on this lovely treat. I for one did not pay $22, my café was not a hipster vibe but maybe it has hipster intentions due to having smash avocado on the menu.
I paid $18 for my lovely treat today and that was due to upgrading my smashed avocado to have scrambled eggs as well. If I did not include the eggs it would have cost me $16. Let’s say that I would spend $18 every day in a year:
365 days/year x $18 = $6,570
If I decided to save for a house in Sydney, then it would take me 30.3 years.
I don’t think I would ever be able to buy a house now if was younger. I would never have the money and therefore would have to stay at my mums or rent forever. I bought my first house with my hubby before we were married. We moved away from the city to allow us to purchase more cheaply (Now with the fact that people are moving out of Sydney our area is going up and rents and prices have gone up. We were lucky we purchased when we did. I wrote more about our story in a post called, “Is Sydney Too Expensive”).
Many people don’t want to sacrifice travel to get into the property market. Although I hate the fact we are away from the city, I love the fact we have our own place and it gives us security to do what we want to do. That said, there is no way we would have purchased a near million-dollar home for our first house. This would scare the hell out of us and god forbid if someone loses their job, gets sick or maybe you want to have a baby and end up on one wage. How do you pay the mortgage????
Our idea was to enter the real estate market cheaply and within our budget, this would allow us to do what we wanted to later. Eventually prices would go up and this will help us in the future. We just had to wait. Maybe this could be a plan if you are madly saving, just purchase in an upcoming area that is not in the city.
After I ordered and then got my meal it got me thinking…Has Bernard Salt made everyone order more smashed avocado?
Has this big media circus about this issue created more business for the so-called cafes that sell this meal?
I for one never noticed it on the menu until today. Mind you, I have not been looking. Maybe I am boring and not part of the trendy set. I for one am not a hipster. I am not classified as young although I don’t think I am old either, well sometimes my hubby says I am but I ignore him.
Some articles that have dealt with the smashed avocado and saving for a house issue:
There slogan is “Have your smashed avo and eat it too”
Have you noticed a trend in your local breakfast joint that the smashed avocado is now hard to get, due to Bernard Salt making it more popular? Are there more options to have with your smashed avocado?
Without all the carry on in the news I don’t know if I would have tried the smashed avocado today. I think I just gave it a go to see what all the fuss was about.
Do you like smashed avocado? If so are you saving for a house? Do you still manage to have your much-loved avocado and save for your dream? Let us know.
I was invited to an intimate ladies lunch. It sounded nice and lovely. In the city for a lunch all by myself, well with a baby so that was not that bad. However I was at the lunch to talk and to learn about the vagina. Or as some people might refer to as the front bottom, the vajayjay or their bits. I’m sure there is more slang to refer to this amazing body part.
The event was hosted by the charming and delightful Dr Ginni Mansberg and the great team from Vagisil, and also the darling Claire from Birds of Prey in Melbourne. The lunch was to learn about a topic that not many people discuss and to bring real world examples by having a frank discussion with other ladies over brilliantly yummy catered lunch.
I of course thought the lunch sounded fab, but I was rather hesitant in talking about the vagina. Why I thought? I am grown woman. I have now had three kids and of course as anyone can attest that during childbirth everyone seems to want to take a look at your vagina, and it is not something that you wince at like you once did before kids. I still don’t like all the doctors interest but you can understand it as the baby has to get out, and of course it is lovely vagina that gives it a helping hand – See an amazing body part!
My bubbles and lovely flowers at the lunch thanks to Vagisil.
I wondered how intimate this lunch would get? Would there be mirrors passed around so that I and others can look at our own vaginas? Would there be puppets of vaginas so that we can learn about where it all lives and how to care for this brilliant part of the body. I know that sounds very strange but I had no idea what the lunch would be and knew the topic was vaginas so it did get my brain racing.
Look how pretty the table was for our amazing lunch and great company. Thanks to Vagisil for the great event.
As I mentioned I was hesitant to attend, I thought for a long time. Why am I so worried? The vagina is not a bad thing. It is a marvel. Men and boys seem to be super proud of their penis so why shouldn’t girls and women be proud of their vaginas (Maybe there should be a proud vagina movement. If there is one already I had no idea). The more women talk to other women about what is normal and happening to them, the more they will understand it is okay.
In the end the lunch was nice. I met some lovely ladies, had amazing food in a fabulous location (It was at The Grounds in Alexandria, Sydney. If you have never been you will love the place. It was HUGE, a hidden little Mediterranean like farm in the middle of the city. They had farm animals for kids to look at and such an amazing amount of greenery.) All my concern over the topic of the lunch was not to be. It ended up with interesting conversation from Dr Ginni and then others joined in so we all learnt more. Very enjoyable!
Did you know?
“An astonishing 1.8 million Australian women suffer with vaginal dryness. That’s close to 1 in 4 of us.”
Take the quiz to learn more.
I too had to answer these questions while at my lovely lunch. I also learnt that I knew more about the vagina than I thought. Amaze yourself and see how much you already know.
How well do you know the vagina?
Take this quick quiz to learn more about the vagina. Questions are the same ones that I had on my ladies lunch with the lovely Dr Ginni Mansberg and the fabulous team from Vagisil.
The vagina should be acidic?
Yes
No
It’s normal to have a discharge from the vagina?
Yes
No
A smelly vaginal discharge means a STI
Yes
No
Nasty bugs thrive in a moist vagina
Yes
No
Douching is the best way to combat a stinky vagina
Yes
No
The best treatment for a dry vagina is washing with soap
Yes
No
You shouldn’t use hand or body lotion to moisturise the vagina
True
False
Only older women suffer with vaginal dryness
Yes
No
Vaginal dryness can be caused by performance anxiety, stress, menopause, hormonal imbalances, exercise, using perfumed soaps and body wash, wearing certain underwear can cause vaginal dryness.
Yes
No
Have you ever had a dry vagina?
Yes or No – This is a personal question that depends on you.
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For those who said yes, what do you think was the cause? (performance anxiety, stress, menopause, hormonal imbalances including breastfeeding, exercise, using perfumed soaps and body wash, wearing certain underwear)
It could be anyone one or a combination of all of the above.
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Have you ever had bad vaginal discharge?
Yes or No – This is your own personal answer again.
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Australians are having as much sex as they would like.
Yes
No
Half of vaginal dryness sufferers don’t use any products to relieve their dryness
True
False
“A study found that of the 1.8 million women who suffer from dryness…
31% experience it more than once a week
17% experience it every 2 or 3 weeks
51% don’t use any product to treat it”
If you are one of these women that do get vaginal dryness then Vagisil has a solution for you. They have created a new product called Vagisil ProHydrate Plus Internal Hydrating Gel, this new product mimics a woman’s natural moisture and offers relief for up to three days. As you will see from the quiz, vaginal dryness does not have anything to do with age. It affects all ages. It could be as simple as stress, medicines that you are taking that throw off your internal pH levels, soaps, body washes, tight clothing, hormonal imbalances and menopause.
Vagisil have created some fabulous health videos which is a brilliant free resource. They feature Dr Adelaide Nardone who answers your questions about why pH matters, causes and also gives you helpful remedies.
This lunch really made me realise that I too was afraid of talking about the vagina. How do girls and women learn what is supposed to be normal if we never discuss it with our daughters, mums and friends. You can see from the statistics that there is a lot of women out there that are not talking about this issue.
A close up of the pretty flowers at the lunch.Dr Ginni Mansberg, Kimba from Kimba Likes and of course me at the lunch.
Be kind to you.
Make sure you talk to your friends, your doctor about any changes that you notice.
Don’t suffer in silence.
Don’t be in pain.
Live life well and if you need help get it.
Shelly Horton and Dr Ginni talk about all the things you are worried about.
“Additionally, research shows that vaginal dryness is most likely to affect women during sexual activity. Among the women studied …
76% experienced dryness during sexual activity
69% found dryness most bothersome during intimacy”
The yummy desserts at the lunch. I had to have all 3…. Yes naughty I know.
Do you discuss things with mates? Or family? If not are you more comfortable talking with your local doctor?
Have you noticed that there is a generational change with this topic? Maybe your older relatives will avoid any topic that has vagina in it and the younger ones are not bothered?
Let us know what has happened to you.
Thanks so much to Claire and Vagisil for the invite to this great event. I had a great time and learnt a lot. I hope you have as well.
Picture this. I am up at 3am or so. I’m feeding my baby boy.
While I do this I like to have the television on with the volume on low to maybe muted so that I can have some light in a very darken room, plus it does help while I get the baby back to bed as this can sometimes take hours.
Meghann wants all the perks of maternity leave but without having any kids!
I had not heard of this person and also about her idea of meternity leave…. I have obviously been having too much fun on my magical holiday with my new born baby.
Mummy cuddling her baby.
One point Meghann made was that parents left work on time to go home to their kids. Well she can do this too. Meghann can make a point of leaving on time to go home or to meet with mates after work. She does not have to have kids to do this.
I know that putting in extra hours at the office shows that you are keen and want to do more. However this can also not be helpful to you as you will be stressed out and might burn out due to the extra hours. Maybe the extra hours are the issue… if Meghann left on time she might not want meternity leave?
I was so intrigued and amazed I increased the volume on the television but was very conscious this might delay getting the baby back to sleep. I had to learn more about this weird idea.
Well I have a nasty shock for you Meghann, maternity leave is not an exotic holiday.
It is not a time that you can just do whatever you want, although it would be nice. You are caring for a new little person that relies on you for everything.
The reality is that you are on call 24 hours a day and also 7 days a week. No sick leave, no pay, and no help really. It is just you.
When you bring home your bundle of joy you are most likely still exhausted from childbirth, you are sore and just feeling like shit actually. Although you feel horrible you still love the fact that you had the baby and think it is amazing and also a fabulous experience.
However all the lovely fuzzy feel good stuff cannot erase the whole thought and feeling that you would really like to be left alone and have a HUGE SLEEP ALL ALONE! This to date has not happened yet….I’m still waiting. Maybe I need some meternity leave now to have some time for me. This way I will get this long anticipated and wanted sleep.
I am not sure what Meghann means by perks of maternity leave?
Is it getting up at all hours to feed a baby?
Is it being extremely sleep deprived that you mix up dates and times. In reality you are really like a zombie…. I’m sure you know what I mean.
Maybe getting thrown up on when the kids are sick? I have had this times two.
Oh….. Wait maybe it is the fact that as the mother you are now the primary caregiver and you cannot get anything done without a little person or people following you around.
I do think it is wonderful that I have had three lovely little people and I feel blessed that we could do that. I also do understand that some women don’t want kids and that is fine too.
However to make out that maternity leave is like a glamourous vacation is just not so. How about you try and spend a day or even a week with me and that idea will be crushed in seconds.
Housework
Never getting to finish tasks
Being constantly interrupted
Cleaning
Washing and sorting clothes
Getting kids to school
Caring, feeding and all things baby. I do love my cuddles with our new little person and of course his lovely giggles and smiles.
Dropping kids and picking kids up from school
Taking kids to after school activities all with the baby…. Yes waking him up for everything is annoying but I have no choice
Getting the kids to do their reading, homework and other things for school. Now this is such a drama as they really don’t want to do this. I try and do this all while trying to settle and get a baby to bed, while the older two are having arguments and being loud and annoying
Do you think it sounds like there are fabulous perks yet? The only perk that I can come up with is that I have three little people that make me feel great when sometimes I don’t. They love me and I love them to bits.
I agree that everyone needs me time.
Everyone needs to be able to recharge their battery so to speak. Some downtime, a chance to chill and to refocus and maybe get the creative juices flowing again.
I don’t think that asking for time out to help with study, work or just to have a break is a bad thing. However trying to say that maternity leave is a perk is just wrong.
One place I worked for factored in some time to just be creative in the workday. This creative time allowed the staff member to explore other areas of interest, maybe learn something that would help them in their role or allow them to work on a pet project.
Me time is something that everyone should get. It is hard though when you take care of young children. It also might be hard if you are the carer of a family member. Time out is good for everyone, and also allows you to be a better mummy or carer since you had some time out. Not being able to do something for you and not having the time to do it can get very frustrating.
What do you think of Meghann Foye’s idea of meternity leave? Do you agree that it should be a thing? I personally think that you can have this option it is just called holidays or say study leave. Or maybe it is called something else at your workplace.
I personally think that if you don’t have kids or other pressures you can have as much me time as you want. I do understand people have to work and other commitments, but once you have done that, you can have your time.
Also if you figure out any other perks of maternity leave please send them my way!
The other week we celebrated International Women’s Day. Lately, there have been many articles about women and girls; the topics range from equal pay, pocket money, women not being in leadership roles, how women manage money, and more!
Inequality is still a major issue and I’m sure I am not the only one that finds this appalling. Yes, it is 2016 and we are still not treating women and girls as equals. Why is being female such a negative thing? We are strong, we have children, we solider on just like men do, and we manage the household, we manage kids and work and also have a career to boot. Plus some of us, myself included taking time out to do unpaid work of looking after kids and family. This unpaid work is not easy as there are no holidays, sick days, or thanks for the majority of the job. However, if you don’t do something it gets noticed instantly. Have two kids sick and you are ill and struggling, you are on your own. You cannot call in and tell the boss you cannot come in that day. Oh, how I wish this was the case!
Girls and women are more highly educated than ever before and it is reflected in the workforce. More and more women are striving for the top jobs and also entering into industries that were seen once as male-only domains, such as engineering, IT and much more. I for one believe and so does hubby, that jobs should be matched on a skill basis. If you fulfil the skill and job requirements you should be seriously looked at for the role, and your gender should not be a factor to determine if you get a job, or if you get a promotion or if you get a pay rise or paid the right amount of money.
Here is my rant about the inequality that women deal with. Yes, I have my cranky pants on and I’m not apologizing for being angry. Everyone should see this as unforgivable. If you have daughters would you want or accept that they will always be underpaid and undervalued? I would hope not!
Gender Pay Gap Stats. Image from https://www.wgea.gov.au/sites/default/files/Gender_Pay_Gap_Factsheet.pdf
Why are top female sports professionals so underpaid?
The Matildas are Australia’s national soccer team. The team have been very successful in the FIFA World Cup and in the lead up to the Olympics. There has been a pay dispute with FFA (Football Federation of Australia), the team wish to have equal pay like the male soccer players.
For example, Each Matilda player got $500 in match fees for the knockout game with Brazil. However male players receive $7,500 for the same thing. (Convery, Stephanie: September 11, 2015, “The Matildas’ pay dispute could spark real change”, abc.net.au)
— $500 per group-stage tournament game, $600 per round of 16-tournament game, $750 per tournament quarter-final, $1250 per tournament semi-final or third or fourth-place playoff and$1500 per tournament final
— Plus an equal share in 30 per cent of all prize money
SOCCEROOS
— A share in commercial profits from matches played and sponsor bonuses
— $6500 per standard international game
— $7500 per group-stage tournament game. $8500 per quarter-final tournament game, $9500 per tournament semi-final or third or fourth-place playoff and $11,500 per tournament final
— Plus an equal share in 30 per cent of all prize money
— Or, $240 daily wage
As you can see a match fee for men that is $7,500 to the women’s pay of $500 is a massive difference. A difference of $7,000 is just not on at all! Not fair if you ask me. Very rude to The Matildas to not value their skill and success and not pay the same as the men are getting.
“”In my next life when I come back I want to be someone in the WTA, because they ride on the coattails of the men,” Moore said. “They don’t make any decisions and they are lucky. They are very, very lucky. If I was a lady player, I’d go down every night on my knees and thank God that Roger Federer and Rafa Nadal were born, because they have carried this sport. They really have.” (Rothenberg, Ben: 2016, March 21, “Indian Wells boss Raymond Moore says women tennis players should be thanking men”, The Sydney Morning Herald.)
Serena Williams “rejected the notion that Moore’s comments could have been misconstrued.
“There’s only one way to interpret that,” she said. “‘Get on your knees,’ which is offensive enough, and ‘Thank a man’? We, as women, have come a long way. We shouldn’t have to drop to our knees at any point.”
“Williams expressed particular shock that Moore would make such comments after last year’s US Open when excitement over her Grand Slam bid caused tickets to the women’s final to sell out before the men’s final for the first time in tournament history.” (Rothenberg, Ben: 2016, March 21, “Indian Wells boss Raymond Moore says women tennis players should be thanking men”, The Sydney Morning Herald.)
Graph looking at data for full-time wages and the gender pay gap. Image from https://www.wgea.gov.au/sites/default/files/Gender_Pay_Gap_Factsheet.pdf
Why is it when there is media coverage regarding Hilary Clinton’s race for the white house, the question is, “How do you feel about a woman president?”
Why is being a woman a major issue?
I understand that America has not had a female president but you don’t hear the same questioning for a male wanting to be president. I would think that they would find this line of questioning rude and not seeing their credentials for the job rather than focus on gender.
If a woman is successful in her career and life, why is it that she is singled out due to her sex? We can see instantly that she is female and that is not a major thing to notice. Who cares!!!
The only thing that should be looked at and worried about is, can she do the job? A woman needs to be noticed for her skills and achievements not just due to gender.
You never hear in the press, that we have a man in this job and it is a first. I wonder how he will do? Why are men not put through the scrutiny women are? Why are men getting more money for the same jobs?
Why is it when men don’t hit their objectives/KPI’s in their job that they still get higher bonuses than women?
Ridiculous if you ask me. Isn’t the whole idea of the reward system to reward the workers that hit the objectives and performance indicators? Not the person that does not achieve?
This could be a woman or a man, the employee just has to hit their targets to be in the running for a bonus not get one without doing so.
“Despite getting the same performance ratings as their male colleagues, women get smaller bonuses on average, according to a report from human resources consultants Mercer.
Even men who only partially met their performance objectives got bonuses that were 35 per cent larger than their female counterparts.” (Perkins, Miki: 2015, November 4, “Gender pay gap higher in bonuses, report finds”
Looking at the gender pay gap from 1995 to 2015. Image from https://www.wgea.gov.au/sites/default/files/Gender_Pay_Gap_Factsheet.pdf
“Boys earn $13 a week in pocket money on average, while girls get $9.60, according to a survey done for the Heritage Bank and released in time for International Women’s Day this week. The bank made similar findings in 2014. (Fitzsimmons, Caitlin: March 8, 2016, “Girls get less pocket money”, The Sydney Morning Herald)
How atrocious that boys even when little still get paid more! I wonder how this works?
Why would parents pay girls less than their boys? I know I wouldn’t.
According to the article from the Herald, it says it could be down the types of jobs done by boys/girls or how the child negotiates. Or maybe the fact that girls are expected to just do housework or jobs around the house for no pay… If this is the case that is just horrible! Living in 2016 and just due to your gender you are expected to do things for no pay. Wrong I tell you! Also if this is so and the reason, showing boys that housework or other chores around the house are not to be valued and not paid is not right at all.
I don’t understand why having a penis makes you earn more over a lifetime. Maybe I need to get a fake one to improve my chances?????
Why is this discrepancy occurring? As an employer, what makes you underpay women?
Why is it okay to pay female employees less?
Women are equally deserving as men, women have the same education and skill base, women are focused and high achieving, and would like to be promoted and go places just like men. This is not something different.
Just because we are female does not make our wants and desires any different to a man. We are just working harder and for less money!
When I was working in the corporate world, I was keen to be promoted and to progress in my career. I saw the men get promoted but when I put my hand up and showed interest I always got told not now, you don’t have the skills yet (although I was already doing the job but did not have the new title and new pay to accompany it) and much more. During my time at many companies, management changed and this meant it was mostly men that took up positions of power, and therefore brought along their mates, who were of course male. I must say that there were a few powerful and lovely women who did a great job and I greatly admired them.
Why is ambition from a woman seen as a terrible trait to have? If I was a man I’m sure the outcome would have been completely different.
Ambition is a great attribute and I should be rewarded. I wish I would know what it would have been like if I was a man, would my life and career have looked different? Would I have been the CEO of a company by now? Maybe it is best not to know, if I knew how it could have been, I think it would make me even angrier.
I was always taught, that you study hard, work hard and do well, good pay will follow. Gender did not come into it. I really don’t see how your sex should determine pay.
Women live longer than men and therefore need more savings to live. Being short-changed in the earnings department means that women’s superannuation is much less than a man’s and even lower if they have had a career break to look after children or other family members.
“The gender pay gap is worst where pay is kept secret and women often find out they are being paid less than their male colleagues after years on the job,” she said.
The gender pay gap is currently at a 20-year high of 18.8 per cent, according to the Workplace Gender Equality Agency. It means that, on average, women earn $298.10 a week less than men. Put another way, they have to work an extra 66 days a year to take home the same amount as a man. (Gartrell, Adam: 2015, August 2, “Greens call for an end to ‘salary secrecy’ to help bridge gender pay gap”, They Sydney Morning Herald)
Pay gaps are broken down by state. Image from https://www.wgea.gov.au/sites/default/files/Gender_Pay_Gap_Factsheet.pdf
Wow! Women earn $298.10 less each week compared to men! That is a lot to not be earning.
That is a loss of $15,501.20 per year in earnings.
Fancy missing out on 15K per year. That is a HUGE gap! I am not sure what industry that these figures were taken from or if this is just an average of many women interviewed and data collected from the Workplace Gender Equality Agency.
If businesses did not keep pay secret then women would know what men and women in similar roles were being paid.
This would help negotiation for salary and make sure that women are not being underpaid. Making pay transparent would also help everyone, not just women. Not knowing what certain roles are being paid and what you can ask for is definitely hard.
If you know what the value of roles are, you are so much more informed, plus employers will, of course, get highly trained individuals that will work hard and wish to grow with the organisation.
The Prime Minister, Malcolm Turnbull, has been focusing on innovation and technology. My girls are very interested in the STEM subjects, Science, Technology, Engineering and Maths. Hubby and I have encouraged this as we believe that the jobs of the future will have some or all of these skills. Also if the twins focus on these subjects and are good at them, they can get a job that pays well in the future. Why are girls not participating in these areas as much as boys? Why are we not encouraging girls to give it a go?
“A recent OECD report found less than one in 20 girls from OECD countries considered careers in science, technology, engineering and maths. In 2013 in New South Wales a tiny 1.5 per cent of girls took the trio of advanced maths, physics and chemistry. Yet a recent study by PricewaterhouseCoopers revealed that in the future 75 per cent of the fast-growing occupations will require STEM – science, technology, engineering and mathematics skills. We are locking ourselves out of the workforce. If we are going to earn the same as our pipsqueak brothers, we will have to think hard about the choices we make.” (Clarke, Ruby, 2015: June 28, “Teenage girls need to change themselves to affect the gender pay gap”, The Sydney Morning Herald)
How low is 1.5% of girls participating in STEM subjects in New South Wales! We need higher numbers. What do you think?
There is also the argument that women work in part-time roles or choose not to work due to kids and other commitments. That might be true.
However, for the women that wish to work, it is rather difficult if you do have kids as well. Juggling motherhood, career and life is tough. Not horrible but just more things to organise and get lined up to make sure everything happens.
I for one would love to work part-time or say full time. A couple of days in the office and the rest from home. My jobs have all been online and therefore can transition to work from home roles. I can put kids in care for the days that I’m at the office but don’t want to have kids in full-time care. Firstly it is too expensive and, secondly, I will never see them.
I don’t have the luxury of living near relatives and therefore I am the one that does all kid-related activities. School run, and after school activities is all down to me. Being the only one doing all this is limiting and therefore I have created my own opportunities with my blog. My own online presence, to hopefully build my empire! (You can only put it out there. You never know right?)
“Sure, if women are simply choosing to work shorter hours in lower-status jobs in lower-paid industries – perhaps because they choose to take on the bulk of the task of looking after children and the home – then there is no problem here.
But – and here’s the rub – perhaps these are not choices freely made.
Perhaps women don’t want to retire with no superannuation or other savings after all. Perhaps they would like to earn a pay-packet the equivalent of a man’s, but they’re too busy looking after those male’s kids for free.” (Irvine, Jessica, 2015: July 31, “Apples and oranges: Gender pay gap is worse than you think”, The Sydney Morning Herald)
Many women would love to get the job after kids to fit into their new lifestyle, however, many companies are still stuck with the mindset that you have to physically turn up to a job in an office.
How about job share? Part-time in the office for 2 days and work at home for 3 days. Work some hours in the day and some in the night and weekend? Flexible hours as long as the work gets done.
Understand if you need to be online or on the phone for meetings or in the office. You can always have a catch-up meeting every fortnight or month?
Depends on the business and workload.
With technology, I don’t why more places embrace telecommuting. It would save the company money and also allow them to get quality employees that will stick with the company due to allowing them to be flexible and work from home.
Think about all the women with fabulous skills that are itching to get the job that businesses are overlooking!
“Clearly society has to change in order for women to rise, but we, the teenagers of Australia, also have to change our attitudes and perceptions. Major corporations must set targets to increase women’s participation in managerial positions.
Men additionally need to take more responsibility for child care and share the load. Unionised workforces also tend to be higher paid workforces so if women join unions, their rates of pay should increase.
But. It’s also down to you and me, ladies. We need to change, too. We need to think about what kinds of lives we want. What kinds of jobs will get us more money? Are we going to be in charge of our own futures or are we going to rely on men to pay for them? If you want to work with children, how are you going to pay for a house in Sydney now the average price has hit almost a million dollars?” (Clarke, Ruby, 2015: June 28, “Teenage girls need to change themselves to affect the gender pay gap”, The Sydney Morning Herald)
When I see a role that is just perfect for me and of course will pay a full wage. Why is the money for child care seen to only be taken from my wage?
Why is child care seen as something that the woman needs to sort out in order to work?
Isn’t child care an issue for both parents?
Having an extra wage would help out the whole family and therefore it is an issue that the family need to address not just one person.
I agree that men need to take more responsibility for child care and help with this more. Some men do this and there is no issue here. However the more equal it is, the more easily women can re-enter the workforce and contribute to the family, society and build for their future as well as their families.
It is 2016 and sex is still seen as an issue regarding pay. I would have thought that this would not be the case.
I hope for my girls that this is not the case when they are older but I would have thought that it would have been already resolved by now. So I’m not holding my breath, however, I can live in hope.
As I have said before, gender is not an issue for pay. The only important issue is, can you do the job, and do you have the skills?
Pay for the role not because someone has a different anatomy than another.
Let me know your thoughts.
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I read with sadness that Bar Century formally known as Century Tavern is set to close. This place was the spot where my mates would hang out and we would have a blast. It all started when one of my good friends had his birthday there during our uni days. Since then we would go back to this pub to meet our gang of friends and have a great time.
One of the other factors that makes the closing of this pub so sad for me is this is where I met hubby. Yes we met at my uni friends birthday drinks so many years ago, 19 years to be precise. Yes that is a long time ago now. Wow has it been that long! How time flies.
We loved this pub. The cheap drinks, the decor, the fun we had there and just the vibe of the place. I must admit that we only went back a little once it was renovated. I liked it much better before they made it look more modern. I know it had sticky floors and it was dark and dingy in some areas, but it had character. I have a lot of great memories of this pub and the fun that was had with a good bunch of people.
Now when I tell the kids where mummy and daddy met it will be something different and not a pub or anything like it once was. I know times change and places evolve, however it would have been nice for this place to still be.
Bar Century’s last day open with be February 27th so maybe I might be able to pull some strings and be able to go and have one last drink at our much loved pub.
As today is Valentine’s Day; Did you meet your special someone in a pub like Bar Century? Is the place where you met your loved one still there or has it been changed and is completely unrecognizable? Let us know.
Note: I am working on the follow up posts Re: Nepean Hospital and settling a fussy baby. So stay tuned.
I sit here in my wonderful hotel room at the Royal Pines on the Gold Coast and about to get ready to start Day 1 at Problogger. I arrived late afternoon yesterday and was lucky to be in time for early registration and the networking event for Thursday night.
My fabulous room at the Royal Pines on the Gold Coast
However I had to share something that happened on the train on the way to the airport yesterday.
I was still making my way down the Blue Mountains and due to it be very early there were school kids on the train. One of these kids were trying to convince her friends that the Gold Coast was not actually in Australia. She was saying that ages ago the Gold Coast was not in Australia, it was on the edge of it.
I know that we had the continental shift and million of years ago all land mass was in a different position and has since moved to its current position.
She was very sure that the Gold Coast in fact was not part of Australia and a different land entirely!
What the????
I was off to fly there very soon?
I did not have a visa? Or my passport! Will I be okay?
Will I be able to get to the conference in this different land?
All of these kids mates were telling her how wrong she was and that it was a very silly idea and that the Gold Coast is part of Queensland and is in fact part of Australia and not a different country.
As this kid was most insistent one friend said, “Fine, I agree with you! The Gold Coast is a different country and not part of Australia. I just want this conversation to end! I want to stop talking about this stupid idea…. “
I did have a BIG chuckle over this, but you can imagine how funny it was when at the airport I checked in at the International Virgin Check In for my flight to the Gold Coast, which is part of Australia and not a different country.
Yep I got checked into my flight at the International Check In at Virgin. It is okay…. they were just doing domestic. However after what happened on the train it was very funny.
Have you ever overheard something funny? What was it? Was it like the Gold Coast is not really in Australia? Let us know.
Thanks so much Joe Hockey for letting us know how to buy a house or to upgrade to a bigger one. The answer is a better paying job. It is that simple. Are you excited? I know many of you feel a weight has lifted with now knowing how to break into the Sydney property market or just the property market at all regardless of where you are based in Australia.
If only getting a higher paying or better job was that easy. It is not like these roles are falling from trees where I am. What about you?
Some people might not be able to get a higher paying job due to skills. Some are still studying to transition to a better role. Some are already earning a lot of money and are struggling to make ends meet with a mortgage, expenses and if they have kids this can add to the expense.
New house. Hopefully it is not too expensive to buy!
Maybe one person is at home taking care of a child or they have to pay for child care. Whatever the situation there is a cost to both decisions. Loss in wages while being a home carer to your child or high childcare fees to allow you to work.
You could be in a regional area where higher paying jobs are few or hardly available. Travelling to the city to commute for a job might take more than a day in travel and not be convenient for you due to other commitments, kids, family and study. Telecommuting is not offered so often and therefore skilled workers lose out on high paying jobs due to employers not being flexible on working remotely.
This is not the first stupid thing that Joe Hockey has said. Last year he announced that “poor people don’t drive cars“. Wow, what a thing to say. Now he wants everyone to go out and get a higher paying job to allow them to afford a house. Hockey has no idea how the average person lives and these comments show that he clearly has no idea!
Wages have not doubled or come close, although houses in Sydney have doubled in cost and for most they are unaffordable.
“How silly to go for a job such as teaching or nursing. All you school-leavers take note of Joe Hockey’s advice – go for a good-paying job. It’s no use being altruistic; it doesn’t pay. We don’t need caring people here.”
If everyone had high paying jobs there would be no one to work on other jobs that don’t pay a lot of money. For example if all the nurses, teachers and the like decided to work in higher paying positions how would schools and hospitals function? They would not.
Building your new house or the second one. Hopefully it will not break the bank.
Or maybe our thinking here is flawed. We should just pay everyone more money! Thats it! Increase everyone’s salary across the board and then all is good.
Once your salary has been increased then you can buy the Sydney house and all is good in the world. Right? You can all thank Joe Hockey if this happens. Maybe we need to have a vote in parliament to make this actually happen. I would vote for it, would you?
I must admit that hubby and I were lucky when we purchased our house. However we did not buy in the city due to the costs then. Now they are just extreme to shocking! We purchased our house in the Blue Mountains in 2002. We sacrificed a cheaper cost of house for travel into the city for work. On a train it takes 2 hours to just get to central and that is only one way. So over 4 hours of travel and very early mornings (I had to get up at 5am to be at work for 8.30-9.00am) was what I did, and hubby still does. We were happy to do this to get started on the property ladder.
We have some equity in our house and plan to eventually build a bigger house for our family. However we don’t want to spend a fortune on the house and due to this we are limited on what we can do. The new house will have to be done in stages although I hate that idea as I would like it all done at one time.
For us we sacrificed living away from the city to get our chance to own our own home. I know this is not for everyone but it helped us. However Joe Hockey would be in for a rude shock, there are many people here that are not rich and drive cars. Being in the Blue Mountains having your own transport is essential.
Here is a list of how you can get into your first home sooner. It is not a serious list it is a funny look at ways according to Joe Hockey we can all be in our North Shore mansion.
Are you saving to get your first house or apartment? Or are you upgrading for family reasons? Are you finding it difficult to get what you due to cost?
What are your thoughts of Joe Hockey’s great idea to just get a higher paying job? Do you think it is that easy? I don’t, not really for everyone.
Send in your comments and let us know how you feel.
The article puts all the emphasis onto women. It does take two to make a baby and men are part of this issue as well. Why are men not being mentioned or told to consider having kids earlier as well? They have issues with age as well and both men and women can have fertility issues when older. It is not just down to the woman to organise all this on her own.
I must say that men before 30 generally are not thinking of babies and the same for women. Some do and that is great, but others are out building a career, studying and the big thing that no one has mentioned is that the women that are being told to race off and have babies probably has not met the right partner to do this with yet. What do you do if you have not met the one yet?
I met my husband in my early twenties but we did not have kids till I was in my mid 30’s. We had a good life, I studied, worked at great jobs and was building my career. We did not want to have babies without firstly being married, having a house and enough money to allow one person to be out of work while looking after kids.
I find it rather interesting that the whole focus is on the woman and not looking at men as well. I did float the idea of having kids earlier but due to hubby wanting to make sure we were married first it got delayed. We waited a while to get married. I think we liked the idea of a long engagement and making sure it all went well.
Girls and women have so many more choices now than to instantly get married and be a mother. You can be a career woman and then a mother, and also both at the same time. I know that doctors are making sure that we are aware that our window of fertility will not last forever and of course if you wish to have children it is a good idea to think about when that might happen. However if you have not met your mate yet, how are you to get busy making the next generation?
Boys need to be taught that they need to look at this issue seriously as well. Women don’t need to take the whole responsibility for fertility for a couple, kids and family. It is something that a couple should do together, not a woman on her own.
When is there going to be high profile articles about men talking about not to delay fatherhood?
I do think that it is easy to think you have plenty of time and I thought that too. As said I was telling hubby that I wanted to have kids and that I did not want to wait. I even suggested having a kid before marriage! Yes this was terrible to mention to him. Oh well… we were lucky that we got married, and the kids did come.
One thing I did make sure to do with hubby when he was still the boyfriend: I made sure he wanted to have kids eventually. I did not want to be with someone that did not want children. It was important to me and if he did not agree then I told him that I could not date him. It sounds terrible to say, but you don’t want to be in a long term relationship and think that they share your views and thoughts, but only to wake up one day and realise that they never wanted children, But you do!
It is tough to figure out how you fit it all in. Kids, life, work and so on. It just works out whatever age you have children. Things just work out. You cope, you make do and you manage. I do think it wise not to leave it too late to have kids but the tough part was the timing with the partner and making sure they were on board with the next steps. If it was all down to women and we could have kids by ourselves then we can fixate on just them.
However I feel that part of the issue is that men are not on the same page as their partners or as said before you have not met the person who will father your children yet, and who knows when that will be.
What do you think? Do you think that men need to be part of this issue?
Do you think that it needs to be part of boys/girls education to understand about fertility and not leaving it too late if you wish to have kids? I do!
Women should not be the only sex that deals with this issue.
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Pink Hope is a charity that is urging you to Make Your Own Pinky Promise with your BFF (Best Friend Forever or just good mate) to help improve your health and your mates health as well.
What is Pink Hope about?
Pink Hope is about taking control of your health and empowering you to learn about the facts, and the myths of prevention and detection of cancer. Explore the Pink Hope website and read about the myths. It is an interesting read. I learnt that Ovarian Cancer does give you symptoms and it is not silent as first thought. Many believed it was a silent killer and only presented at the late stage of the disease.
Did you know?
“Doing at least 1.25 hours of exercise per week has a benefit; every little bit counts. The more you exercise the more benefit you get.”
What do you do to keep yourself healthy and well?
I am including more movement into my day. Most days I do close to 10,000 steps or way over.
I make sure that I add a lot of bright coloured vegetables to meals. I have heard it is good to eat a rainbow so we do in this house, well I do try!
I have cut back on alcohol. I have limited wine to weekends and have a glass with dinner.
I make sure to have a yearly check up at the doctors to make sure that all is well with me. I get bloods done, breasts checked, skin looked and of course a pap smear. I try and do it around my birthday so that I remember. So I am due one now as my birthday was yesterday.
Bright coloured vegetables in our pasta sauce
What would your Pinky Promise be?
You have the chance to win a trip to New York City for 2. Yep that is right. You can take your bestie with you. Now that would be a fab way to relax and recharge. I would say that this is a good way to be happy and healthy!
This is what you can win!
Return flights for 2 to New York City
5 nights and a fine dining experience at the luxurious Soho Grand hotel
$5,000 shopping spree at the new Emma & Roe by Michael Hill NYC store!
Don’t fret if you are not the grand prize winner. There are 5 runner up prizes to be won. These are prize packs from KoraOrganics by Miranda Kerr worth $500 each!
So the action plan now is!
Find your bestie and make a Pinky Promise Now. Not only will you be healthier for doing so, you could also win a trip to New York City.
I have made a Pinky Promise and will maintain my healthy eating and making sure I do more exercise. I’m now accountable to my bestie for my promise. My bestie is my hubby. So hope that inspires him as well as it does me.
#BFFPINKPINKYPROMISE
Pink Hope would like more than 10,000 people to register their pledge before the end of May. I hope that we can help to get them to that number.
Disclaimer: I was approached to post about this campaign. I believe in being healthy for you and the family. I have young children and my main aim is to be around a long time so that I can be with them and see them grow up. I love anything that helps others and therefore have shared this wonderful campaign. I hope it inspires you and of course there is a chance to win a fab trip overseas as well.
I must say that all this talk of double dipping and new mums supposedly rorting the system is hypocritical if you ask me.
New Parents – Hopefully will be still able to claim the parental leave.
The government voted for this paid parental scheme. It was structured with part coming from the employer and part from the government. Government minister wives have even made use of this scheme. It was all above board and if you were entitled to the parental leave payments why not let this help you if you are a new parent. It all helps.
Why is it that we are now having conversations about who works and who doesn’t. I for one would like to challenge any person to say that a mum that is a stay at home parent does not work. The only difference is that they are not in paid employment. This mother might be racing everywhere and going above and beyond for her family but this is not listed as work, due to no payment for said tasks.
Working mothers do it tough too. They drop their kids off at care or have family to come and help. Without care these mums would not be able to work and to contribute to society, their household and progress their careers.
It does not matter if you are in paid work or not. Looking after kids, family and a house is a big job as well. Doing this with a full time job is hard too. It is all a balancing act. No one is better or worse, it is just different.
It now seems like mothers are under attack. I know that is not actually true but that is the way it appears. Joe Hockey was asked if “Double Dipping” was fraud and he eventually said yes. Now he is back peddling. So I suppose in his mind all women/men that took advantage of this paid parental scheme, which is legal and was voted in by him and the current government are breaking the law.
be the primary carer of a newborn or recently adopted child
meet the Paid Parental Leave work test
meet the Paid Parental Leave income test
be on leave or not working from the time you become your child’s primary carer until the end of your Paid Parental Leave period
Just in case you are worried that paid parental leave might not be available for you, there is a note on the website that says:
“The current Paid Parental Leave scheme has not changed. It will continue to be available to eligible customers.”
Let’s just hope that it does not get changed at all, or very little if at all.
What are your thoughts? The government is now claiming that it is the parents fault for taking advantage of a legal scheme to help them spend more time with their new baby.
If there is a way for new parents to spend more time with their new addition why not take that up and give yourself more time to bond, and get to know your new little baby. It could be a mother or father that wishes to do this, and does not always have to be the mum that is claiming the paid parental leave.
Are you a new parent? Have you been lucky enough to get the paid parental leave? When I went on maternity leave with the twins I did not have this option and plus I was on a contract.
If paid parental leave was available when I had the twins and I was in full time employment I would have taken advantage, as it would have given us help when we really needed it. Caring for two new little people and not earning a wage was a shock to the system.
Let us know how this talk of double dipping is affecting you. What are your thoughts of all the back flipping?